A lady I know reasonably well came up to me t work today and asked how I know B( bloke) because he has asked her out. He doesn't work with us but from FB she could see I was friends with him.
I actually know him because a very good friend of mine is currently divorcing him so I have got all sorts of " dirt" on him that I won't be dishing as I know the source may not be entirely reliable. However, I do believe a lot of what my friend has told me, including a couple of incidents of DV during the break up.
Now I actually like B and I know that my close friend wasn't entirely blameless in the break up (affair) although I know there is no excuse for DV. I have known B for about 20 years and have socialised with him. I think they would be a great couple and have no issue with my friends ex moving on at all so that's not it. I definitely won't be mentioning this to my friend, she knows he is dating again, so is she and their relationship is quite amicable.
Now my dilemma is what if Nything to tell the lady who he has asked out. I don't want to get involved and I don't want to tell her anything potentially untrue but I DO believe this man was violent to his wife at least twice. ( seen bruises etc) It was many years ago and they actually put it behind them and made another go of their marriage until recently when the split up again - for good this time.
The other thing is that I know the lady who asked me has been a victim of DV before, which means I doubt she would never go out with a man with a history of it.
I have managed to not say much so far but she keeps asking about him. My Husband says keep out - should I?
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Hoppinggreen · 07/01/2014 14:57
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