To want to keep ds at home?

[BeanoNoir]

Or am I being psb?

Ds is nearly 5 months old (also have 2yr old dd). Family day at pils today, we were there yesterday for Christmas Day. Today dh's cousin and his wife and kids are coming over, should be a nice day with food, drink etc.

Ds has a really bad phlegmmy (sp?) cold and cough. Really snotty and sicking up milk quite a lot. Only wants to cat nap on me, not go in cot. Part of me feels like it's unfair to drag him out and also, selfishly, I find it a lot harder work having to be at someone else's house and look after him and be sociable instead of staying in. Other part of me thinks it's not right to bow out of a family do.

So wibu to stay at home and just give him cuddles and get some rest myself? Is it a bit psb?

Should we just stick to the plan and go out or is it u to drag him out when he feels bad? I know I wouldn't want to go if I was as poorly as him but as he's just a baby all he's expected to do is lie there anyway? Or is it unfair to take him?

Or is it u to cancel seeing family because of this? Dh could still go with dd.

I think I'm going to feel a bit guilty if I don't go as I don't want to let them down but a bit guilty if I do go because of ds being poorly he maybe should get to rest in his own home? Wwyd?

[BeanoNoir]

Ok, reading this thread back I'm a bit worried that this isn't an unreasonable enough topic for aibu? Apologies for vague thread title and any subsequent disappointment on reading op

[TheGhostOfPortoPast]

I would think it was fine to send dh with dd and then both of you snuggle down on the sofa. Definitely not selfish. Hope he feels better soon.

[NotEnoughTime]

If it was my son, I would stay at home with him.

I have letting people down but I think in this instance it is the sensible thing to do.

I would send DD with DH.

Hope your DS feels better soon.

[BeanoNoir]

Thanks. I think my instinct wants to stay at home with him, but I worry a bit about looking like a fussy, uptight mum. Don't know if it's u to deprive others the chance to see/cuddle him for what is effectively just a bad cold.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

Who wants to catch a cold during the hols? Stay at home and send the daughter with the husband