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to think a woman carrying heavy furniture isn't remarkable?

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misspontypine Fri 01-Nov-13 21:04:22

Me and dp went to collect our new sofa today, it's a largish corner bed sofa. It came in 3 bits.

Me and dp live on the 4th floor and we have no lift.

3 separate neighbors came and said things like "well done for choosing such a strong wife!" "were non of your mates free to help you?" "let ne help, I know I have a bad back but your not going to manage that without help, misspontypine can hold open the door."

I'm not especially strong, average I'd imagine, I have a chunky toddler that a carry lug around all day, I guess that helps with stamina.

Aibu to expect in this day in age it shouldn't just be men that are expected to carry heavy things?

mitchsta Sun 03-Nov-13 15:15:18

I was getting off a train the other day and there was some bloke waiting for all the other passengers to disembark. He had a load of music equipment and some bulky-looking bags, etc. I asked if he'd like a hand (there were quite simply a lot of things for him to drag off the train) and he gave a chuckle, looked me up and down and said "Erm... no thanks, this stuff is [snorts] quite heavy." Fucking prick. I'll carry the fucking light stuff then, Mr Macho - I was only trying to be helpful. What's wrong with a simple "No thanks" ?

ZingWantsCake Sun 03-Nov-13 15:24:29


you can't offer help to elderly people either - the last two I tried to help looked at me like I was trying to rob them.

I know, different issue, but it annoys me so much

MurderOfGoths Sun 03-Nov-13 15:24:47

I find it frustrating now as I have an invisible disability which means I can no longer lift heavy stuff, I had to get an assistant to help me in B&Q a few months back and it took all of my willpower not to tell this guy that I was unwell rather than just female and weak.

Ketchupwithchips Sun 03-Nov-13 15:31:04

I work in an industry that involves lots of heavy lifting. Thankfully, the prevailing opinion seems to be that as long as you pull your weight (no pun intended), then everything is fine.

What really gets my goat, however, is the men who insist on trying to lift too-heavy things alone or with too few people and then injure themselves. On the while, the women seem to be far more sensible about saying, "This is a four-man lift, you, you, you and you".

misspontypine Sun 03-Nov-13 15:56:49

It seems like a common reaction to women lifting things except if it's a child, then the lifting is normal

I think people have the same reaction when my dp bakes cakes, they are yummy but the praise people give him would be more appropriate for someone who had just completed a marathon or PhD.

complexnumber Sun 03-Nov-13 18:22:53

I remember watching a programme a few years ago: 'The world's strongest man.'

It was set in S. Africa, and all of us watching knew that the huge weights being carried around by the 'strong' men, would eventually be shifted back to position by powerful African women.

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