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Am I being totally selfish?

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CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 27-Sep-13 16:58:29

We are visiting DP's relatives ATM. We do this every month.

DP and his parents do a hobby. It was a hobby I wanted to do, that they'd never done before. Health-problems made me unable to do it, but they got interested, and started to do it without me. I am a bit resentful of that. I feel left out, and like it's constantly being rubbed in my face that I can't do it, so I may be BU because of that.

We've been here 3 days. I've had to commute into work by train. DP has been off, as have his parents. Today, I took the morning off. We were due to go out somewhere all together, but DP and his parents decided to do that hobby instead. Apart from they didn't actually do it, in the end, and the morning off was wasted. I had to travel to work at lunch, but they went out.

Tomorrow, we were supposed to visit a local attraction for my birthday. My birthday was months ago, but DP had something big going on, and it's closer to here anyway. Apart from now they want to do the hobby instead, and go to the attraction on Sunday, when we were due to go home.

I expressed disappointment that they didn't do the hobby today, when I was busy anyway, and instead my plans were being moved around. I'll now spend hours tomorrow on my own. Is that really selfish?

ohmymimi Fri 27-Sep-13 19:07:45

Are they furbies? That could explain your allergy.
Seriously though, they sound totally inconsiderate and selfish. Find a hobby that does not include them.

LessMissAbs Fri 27-Sep-13 19:08:36

Cycling? Horse riding? I'm thinking The Hobby was adversely affected by the weather maybe.

YABU a bit. What does it matter precisely what date you go to see the attraction? One day is neither here nor there. Chill! And if you are the only one who cannot do The Hobby, try not to spoil it for others, or you risk coming across as a killjoy, particularly if the PIL are older than you and can still do The Hobby.

Primadonnagirl Fri 27-Sep-13 19:12:19

LOL at dogging!! Or possibly fracking? Drug smuggling?whatever it is we are all going to be dreadfully disappointed...

phantomnamechanger Fri 27-Sep-13 19:14:46

LesMissAbs is the OPs MIL, I reckon!

SugarMiceInTheRain Fri 27-Sep-13 19:15:42

YANBU. I'd be annoyed, especially with them not doing it on the day you were busy and planning to waste your time by leaving you hanging around waiting. And changing your birthday plans. I'd go home personally.

Also intrigued about 'the hobby'

Faux Fri 27-Sep-13 19:20:22


SoldAtAuction Fri 27-Sep-13 19:21:51

You are being reasonable! thanks

But I do need to know what the hobby is now.....

UniS Fri 27-Sep-13 19:32:49

Was the surf good today?

NeedlesCuties Fri 27-Sep-13 20:27:41

Just tell them to get stuffed and go off to celebrate your (belated) birthday yourself.

They sound like bores anyway.


MikeOxard Fri 27-Sep-13 21:45:04

They are being utter bastards! Stop going there. You commute to work several days every month, so your dp and in laws can do a hobby you're recently unable to do for medical reasons? What. The. FUCK?

animaniac Fri 27-Sep-13 21:51:14

I'm with the others...whats The Hobby??
but otherwise, doesnt sound like you're being UR.

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