Our sons are 5(mine) and 7(hers).
Her son is very very boisterous and very very large for his age (obese and as many obese kids end up, very tall with it!). He hurts DS all the time. Now DS is a fighter and can be very boisterous too but even he has started to shy away from 'play fights' with this boy as physically he stands no chance. I am trying to stamp out the play fighting all together btw. Her son obviously has no idea of his size so has a child's brain in a body like that of a child significantly older than he is.
Her son has little respect for belongings and every time her son comes over (with or without her) things get broken or deliberately wrecked. For example DS had been given a party invite which I had stuck to the fridge. Her son pulled it off and scrunched it up for absolutely no reason what so ever. He then grabbed my handbag and wandered off outside with it!! I took it back and said 'no sweetheart, we don't take handbags', firmly but not angrily.
He gets excited, as kids do, and jumps about but this is a tiny tiny house and he just doesn't realise his size! Crashing into walls, bouncing on beds. Tipping boxes of toys out for no reason, throwing my sons things just to upset my son. My son reacts and can give some of this nonsense too btw, he is certainly not innocent though I am really trying to clamp down on him now.
DS is tired from starting school and just can't cope with this boy around all the time. Mate will turn up whenever which up until now I have said is fine and told her to do. This boy is a total sweetheart in many ways and I love my mate to bits and him too, but recently, with some circumstances changing for me and DS, it has all become too much.
I am a total wuss, have no backbone, and have many anxieties. Can't bring it up with friend. She would be very hurt and angry and she is not a friend I am willing to lose. I haven't got many as it is but she and I are very close.
Can I do anything? AIBU for not doing anything? And yes I name changed just in case she is on here, though I am almost certain she is not.
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Helpwithherson · 21/08/2013 19:43
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