Hi,
Presently ( 4, nearly 5 year arrangement) my husband has had 1 evening of midweek access (3 hours) and Friday after school until Saturday at 4 and then Saturday at 4 until Sunday at 4 alternate weeks.
He now wishes to change weekend contact to fortnightly Friday 4 o'clock until Sunday at 4 and then a weekend off.
He states this would allow him to do more things with the children and have better quality time with them.
He hasn't asked them - he doesn't think they should have a voice, but i have and they are conflicted ( they are 10, 8 and 6 years). Not over the moon but the objects they have are not notable either
I object to this because they do not have correct sleeping arrangements i.e topping and tailing or on the floor. We have a massive clash in parenting styles i.e bed time at 10 o'clock, crap diet but i understand i just have to get on with it and get over it.
The main objection i have is i work late (untill 9 o'clock) on a thursday and friday evening. He refuses to change his mid week wednesday contact - so this means i will not see my children - bar an hour before school - Wednesday, Thursday, Friday,Saturday and Sunday Until 4 - the week he proposes the change. Even if he dropped the Wednesday it is still a very long time for me not to have meaningful contact. I am on a 3 year contract and the Thursday and friday lates are immovable - the rest of the week is flexi time.
I am also pregnant with there half sibling and don't believe it to be in my unborn childs or thier best interest to be separated from siblings for this long (I am aware this is all very selfish)
I am reluctant to change because we both get an equal time with them at the moment and it works well. He has said unless i agree he is filing court papers next week.
I am worried that i am being selfish and i don't want to go to court if he is indeed right and my objects, due to working hours and irrelevant.
What are the chances that his proposal will be changed, given the children are not particularly bothered either way?
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benfoldsfive · 09/08/2013 19:45
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