This is a genuine question especially to anyone out there who is a photographer and may have a different perspective on ownership of photos etc.
Several months ago a friend pulled out a camera while she was visiting and asked to take some photos of my kids, saying she had previously worked as a photographer. She took lots, and I asked her if I could have copies of the photos, but she only ever sent me one, not very good one, and not the ones I was hoping for.
Move on several months, and I raised the topic, but she got very cagey about showing me the photos, let alone giving me copies. Her behaviour was so odd (not letting me see the files of images, not allowing me to choose the ones I liked) that I eventually got angry and insisted on her giving me copies of all of them. She got very upset, saying I didn't understand and that I was taking advantage of her. She said she wanted to work on the photos and give me her selection of them as a present, rather than seeing them in their present state. And so I said, but it was months and months ago! When was she planning on getting around to it? Which of course upset her more.
Can anyone understand her perspective? because I honestly can't. It cost her nothing to give me copies, and just a few moments of her time. I had asked her for copies at the time she took the photos, so I thought I was just reminding her of a promise. And just because she captured the images, doesn't (for me) mean that she can withhold any of them from me, does it? After all, I was there at the time they were taken! And more importantly, they are images of my own children! Surely I have just as much right, if not more, to control who sees the images!
Sorry, rant over, would be glad of your responses.
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Lizkin · 04/08/2013 20:26
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