to move or not to move

[rosebrook2006]

our daughter had problems settling in to high school as she is very shy,also had problems with some bullying she begged to move schools,we had put the house on the market as we had been thinking about it for a while and decided to move to Devon,
however several months down the line,the bully has left and our dd is now happy in school ,is doing well academically and has been chosen to represent her year in a media group and won the spelling bee.After viewing house in devon and going to see potential new school she became extremly upset about moving schools i am very very concerned that we are doing the wrong thing as i think to have dd happy and settled in school is priceless,there are rows every day and not a nice atomosphere in house i think we should postpone the move as i am worried she may never get her confidence back as it has taken her a year to feel settled my OH thinks we should still move i am caught in the middle,any thoughts ?

[mrscumberbatch]

Will you or DH have to move jobs etc?

Are you happy in your current home?

Do you like the school DD is currently at?

Is there anything- apart from a different school- that would improve your life in new area?

[rosebrook2006]

no we work from home and would probably buy something with income potential ie B and B.we love our current home but the area is an issue.the school she is in now is a very good school which specialise in Languages which my dd is very good at.the areas we are looking are in little devon villages.
it took us a long while to calm our dd about going to current school as all her other friends went to the local church high school.
i am worried that we could have a potential very unhappy dd for the next few months/year and that she could loose all the confidence she has gained back

[formicadinosaur]

How old is DD?

[mrscumberbatch]

Depending whereabouts in Devon you're thinking of.... it can be quite insular and you'd have to be in a tourist area for a B&B to be viable which is expensive.

Given that my mum was in the same situation as you when I was a child, I'd sit on it but always be prepared to move. }}Hopefully it's been an isolated incident and DD will be happy from here on.

[zoobaby]

Since DD is clearly doing well now, I'd stay. But I'd also make it clear that the option won't be repeated (i.e. the life decisions for her entire family are not hers to make).

[Cakebaker35]

Hmm think it would depend on how many years left of school she has for me. If 1 or 2 then I'd probably stay put and move once she had finished, but if longer then I'd probably do the move but reassure her that she will be fine, Devon is great, lovely schools and get her involved as much as possible in choosing location, house etc so she feels she is part of it, rather than something that's being done to her if that makes sense.