To be pissed off with my friend over this?

[youarewinning]

Ok, everyone patents differently and I respect that.

But when you've spent all day telling your dcs that's another minute earlier at bedtime for shouting, being ride, calling names them you should follow it through?

I'm annoyed because it was my DS getting the brunt of some of it and as it was being dealt with I kept praising him and let it go.

Since I got home I have had numerous texts about the fact they have went to supermarket, another whist discussing something she mentioned dcs still up (Shed if DS in bed) and just had one - putting dcs to bed!!!!!!

I think if she decides not to follow through that's fine but it feels like she's making done kindn of point? Especially when she blamed their behaviour on 'too many late nights' .

I have just politely declined an invite she have me for a BBQ tomorrow!!!!

[youarewinning]

And I clearly cannot type on my iPhone!

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

Well maybe she needed food so had to go.

I've kind of come to the conclusion (DS is 7 months)that life is too short to get involved or invested in other people's parenting issues/styles etc. I can't be arsed. I just meet up with the people who are like me and try and avoid the ones who aren't so good call re the BBQ.

[MalcolmTuckersMum]

You can't make her follow through on her threats / promises - all you can do is stop being around such a flake and it seems as though this is what you are now doing. YANBU.

[bigbuttons]

I can't understand any of the op

[youarewinning]

Must admit big - neither can I and I wrote it! Bloody iPhone!

Basically friends dcs we're treating my DS and their mum and each other very badly. Her consequence was early night as obviously tired.
She (it seems) has made a point in telling me how late her dcs have stayed up. Then invited me to a BBQ tomorrow. Which I've politely declined.

[AgentZigzag]

DC do run riot more than normal sometimes, and maybe get a bit over excited/showing off.

Although it's no on for your DS have to bear the brunt.

What are they like normally?

[AgentZigzag]

And how old are they all?

5/6 would be excusable, 11/12 and maybe not.

[youarewinning]

Pretty bad normally! It's just I always think if a parents dealing with it then don't let it be my problem.

Guess listening to a child wishing mine dead because they hate him upset me. To find out that its basically been passed off as ok has pissed me off. Btw all DS did was suggest a name for a group - which he was asked to do - and the child decided it was stupid and took offence when their sibling thought it was a brilliant idea.

I accepted it was heat and tiredness but thought the consequence was early night so thought at least they were bring given message it's not ok to behave that way.

[formicadinosaur]

Not following through = flakey parenting.

Why threaten something that is impractical? Why didn't she just send her child into timeout?