Found a bargain today, and although i am nervous about being pregnant (mc feb) i have bitten the bullet and bought a very nice pram of a lady on fb, it was such a bargain i had to have it. As we don't own a car i sent dh off to collect it & gave him money for a taxi expecting him to come home in a taxi obviously.
Anyway not many people know of my pregnancy as of yet except a select few, i'm only 12wks.
Instead of getting a taxi, my dh got fil to pick him up with it, not only does fil not know i'm pregnant but i don't want the ils to know for quite sometime and we are relatively non contact due to their narcisstic behaviours aswell many other reasons.
When dh got back i said i saw fil, apparently he still knows nothing (cant see how that's true when it was a complete set with carrycot). Now ils i suspect will be talking and their tongues will be wagging at the prospect of the long awaited grandson that so far they don't have being that each & every pregnancy so far on mine & sils side has only so far bought them grandgirls-each pregnancy has bought with it harrassment until the day of the sexing scan. This time i don't want them to know until they actual notice and me being overweight was hoping never lol.
So many incidences have happened with ils, too much to put in this thread but we have a long list, including hate towards my eldest dd from a previous relationship, telling her that she has eyes like her real father & that she looks like a chinese boy, fil insisting my dc went to naps with him in his bed when we used to visit, a mothersday showdown where fil assuming mil hadn't been bought a gift shouted, swore & spat that he didn't give a f* if he ever saw his gc again, mil insults dh on numerous occasions, mil puts & buys her other gc 1st, pils took us to a wedding and took dh out for hours leaving me & dc alone in hotel room in middle of no-where, i found out last year fil beat dh as a child.
Alot more has happened than above but i thought dh was more in control of them now as we are mostly non contact and he doesn't put too much pressure on me to see ils anymore but im upset instead of getting the taxi today he has got in fils car knowing how much i wanted this pregnancy to be secret from pils for aslong as possible. Dh has even been a twit and left one of the bits in fils car by mistake so i have to deal with fil at my door tomorrow. I don't want that man anywhere near my home and i'm so angry.
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pumpkinsweetie · 22/06/2013 18:09
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