Situation has been rumbling on for several months now.
Close friends of ours have recently split up. The husband had been having an affair for 3 of the 5 years of his marriage. The OW became pregnant and he left his wife.
Since the split, I've not wanted to have anything to do with him. Basically, he isn't the person I thought he was. He has been lying to us all for a long time and has been vv cruel to his stbxwife - he has done a u-turn on wanting children and is now bleating on to anyone who will listen that stbxwife was trying to "deny him" fatherhood. The OW is much younger than him and he was in a position of trust when they met. It leaves a bad taste.
The baby has recently been born. I am still avoiding him, as is DH, although he has contacted us a few times trying to bury the hatchet.
It has been sad and regrettable, but DH and I felt we were doing the right thing.
However, other mutual friends think differently, and I have had one such talking to me today, and she told me I was being very unreasonable not to see the baby, as it is hardly her fault. This feels like guilt-tripping and I don't like it. Apparently, several people are going to the christening, and this friend thinks DH and I should go (we were invited).
My instinct is no, and to drop this man from our social circle. Am I actually BU?
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To not want anything to do with ex-friend and his child?
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TheSmallClanger · 22/05/2013 22:34
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