To have second thoughts about this

[Dryjuice25]

When I got my previous job I had to commute to work and was not around to pick up my kids from school. I asked a mum I knew if she could pick up my kids from the school and I would pay her. Her dd was in same class with my dd, so there was little inconvenience. She would just pick my dds and keep them home until my ex finished college at 4:30. This was for 4 days a week and I'd provide their after school snacks. This mum refused but recommended someone who then agreed to do this for £40 a week.

Fast forward three school terms later this mum has now moved to the town I now live (200miles away). She has an abusive partner who doesn't help her much and has a new born. The other day she was stuck in traffic [why travel miles and miles when you have to pick a child from school?] She called like an hour beforehand to see if I would pick her dd up. For this I'd have to go into town, get a bus to the school, pick her up, get bus to town and another back home, with 3kids in tow! I couldn't anyway as I had to be somewhere else but I thought she was asking for too much!! My car is off the road.

She has asked me to babysit when she goes to the gymn for free- a few times a week. I love small babies but only my own. Please don't judge me for this.

I stupidly said yes. She has had a tough time lately(abortion). I agreed to look after her dd when she had to travel miles to have this done but when the day came she just went and didn't communicate with me or thank me for offering to help which miffed me a bit?! Also it seems like she only calls me when she wants me to do her a favour.

If there is anything I hate is to feel used and now I want to cut all communication and obviously bail out of the babysitting. I am generally not good at making friends so I wonder if I am being unreasonable.

[KatyTheCleaningLady]

YANBU!

To occasionally help someone out in a pinch is laudable. Going to the gym is not a pinch.