to be annoyed that the grocery shop was done without me

[peacefuloptimist]

We do a big grocery shop fortnightly. Me and DH normally go together as I dont drive but occasionally he does it without me which he has done today. I have told him I dont like it when he does that. I am a SAHM so am normally the one doing the cooking and housework (though he does help at the weekend) so I am more aware of whats needed. He checks briefly the essentials but mostly he guesses at whats needed and always misses stuff out or buys things we dont need. Like today he has bought a load of snacks (think junk food) for himself but has forgotten my healthy snacks and veg for our ds purees. Also never buys cleaning products like washing up liquid. l have a suspicion that he deliberately doesnt bring me to save money as he spends less when Im not there. AIBU to be pissed off after I told him not to or am IBU to demand he doesnt go without me?

By the way, before anyone asks we used to do our shopping online but found we saved mm

[ilovepowerhoop]

why not make a shopping list together and then it doesn't matter who goes to the shop for it. We also have a little pad on the fridge and if we run out of something or think of something we want/need then we write it on the pad ready to go on the proper list or it can be bought as and when required.

[HorryIsUpduffed]

Well of course it is cheaper if he doesn't buy half the things you need Cleaning products in particular add a surprising amount to the total.

I agree what you need is a list though. DH and I drive each other nuts if we go to the supermarket together.

[Lamazeroo]

Why don't you drive?

[glenthebattleostrich]

FFS, people are allowed to not drive.

OP, YANBU. On the rare occasions DH does things like this I take his personal credit card and do an online shop. It's amazing how that changed his attitude!!

[cece]

Learn to drive

Write a list that he can take and do the shopping. You get to lounge at home.

Do an online shop.

[peacefuloptimist]

sorry I have acci dentally duplicated this thread. The longer version of this thread is around some where.