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to propose to DP because i know I'd do it well?

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LittleLisa78 Mon 06-May-13 23:40:20

DP and I have been together many years and have an understanding that we'll get married when we're finished having children and they're all old enough to enjoy/participate in the day. I'm not entirely sure he plans to propose, I think he just assumes we've agreed about the wedding and that's enough. I don't particularly want him to propose - I know he loves me so it won't prove anything, I hate being the centre of attention and it'd make me feel awkward plus he's rubbish at surprises so it's likely I'd know in advance or have to pretend to be surprised.
I'm great at organising surprises, he would never expect me to propose and I know it'd mean a lot to him if I organised something special for him. AIBU to do this, is it a bit silly?

MardyBra Mon 06-May-13 23:42:05

I say: Go for it! What do you have in mind?

SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly Mon 06-May-13 23:42:34

Go for it

Floggingmolly Mon 06-May-13 23:43:18

How can you do it "well"? Create a big show stopping extravaganza, you mean? Would it make any actual difference? confused

Casmama Mon 06-May-13 23:44:53

Don't be a misery guts Molly. Go for it OP.

mummymeister Mon 06-May-13 23:46:22

My only advice is from my granny "never ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to" what if you ask and he is embarrassed and cant say yes even if he wants to. or your plans to do it well go wrong. why the need to propose, that's already happened hasn't it if you have agreed to get married when dc's are grown up.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Mon 06-May-13 23:48:53

Sounds cool to me!

LittleLisa78 Mon 06-May-13 23:50:11

Molly I don't mean in an attention seeking way, I just mean doing something special and memorable for us both. Was thinking of taking the kids away for a couple of days and organising things while he's at work then getting him to meet us for the surprise - not sure what to do exactly yet though.

squoosh Mon 06-May-13 23:54:19

Go for it! No law says you have to wait for a proposal like a meek Regency lady.

Ignore the grumps.

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