to text rude non RSVPer....

[peaceturtles]

DD baptism in a few weeks time, invites sent out 4weeks ago with deadline today. Am having the party at my house and v. tight on space, hence had to be picky about who to invite. I wasn't going to invite this particular mate and her family as I don't see them any more and 2 the Husband is a dullard, but then a mutual friend made me feel guilty about not inviting her, so I did. Nothing, no response. I really wanted to invite a family from DS school as have a lot more in common with them, but DH will go beserk if I invite any more people, so invited the old school friend instead. I have texted and fb'd and still nothing. AIBU to send her a quick text along the lines of "Am assuming you can't coming to x baptism, catch up soon x" I'm not that bothered about her coming, just annoyed as I could of filled their spaces, should have gone with my gut...

[Bluebell99]

Why don't you ring her or speak to her face to face rather than texting or face booking? You will then have your answer straight away. It's easy to ignore a text or Facebook message and also some people don't use Facebook or even look at their phones much. Also calling her dh a dullard isn't very nice, maybe there is no love lost between you and maybe they are wondering how to get out of going to your ds's baptism?!

[FrenchJunebug]

there is this new great invention called telephone where you talk to people and they answer.

Also do you think they don't know you don't like them?!

[BeaWheesht]

If I were them I wouldn't be coming - maybe - shock horror they don't like you. Why not call them and ask?

cannot believe a fully fledged adult would refer to someone as a dullard

[LessMissAbs]

Do you invite them to dinner parties? If not, if I were them, I'd be wondering why you'd invited them to this. They are probably ignoring out of politeness/confusion. Your wrapt interest in who exactly to invite to your DD's christening and the danger of your DH going berserk over it make me wonder who is the dullard in this little tale.

[stressyBessy22]

christenings are Dullsville itself,

[Callisto]

You're being U on three counts here:

a. inviting someone you don't like
b. inviting them in a really crap way (FB invite to a christening fgs, I wouldn't respond either).
c. sending passive-aggressive text when they ignore your 'invite'.

[MortaIWombat]

They probably know they got their invitation four weeks after everyone else and are 'second tier' guests. Still rude not to reply with a brief 'Thanks, but no thanks', though.

[Suzieismyname]

YANBU, but next time you arrange an event include a 'reply by' date.

OP doesn't say how she sent the original invites, just that she sent reminders by text and Facebook.

What's wrong with referring to someone as a dullard if they are one?

[Suzieismyname]

Sorry, OP, you did put a date in. She hasn't replied so she's not coming. I think you're bring very polite to send such a text.

[LemonPeculiarJones]

Yes send the text, it'll put your mind at rest. Not rude at all. And invite the people you'd rather have there.

Don't even give it another thought.