wedding invitation or not...

[gallifrey]

My dh has been friends with this guy for about 20 years. He was dh's best man when we got married and my dh was his friends best man when he got married.
He knows all his family and we get invited to family events etc.
The friends younger brother is getting married in june and dh is invited to the stag weekend really to make the numbers up but there has been no mention of us going to their wedding!
We are a bit pissed off tbh and now dh is starting to not want to go to the stag weekend out of principle!
are we being unreasonable?

[HildaOgden]

Yes,you're being unreasonable.

Hope this helps

[Fulhamup]

No, you're not. I think it's rude to expect blokes to go to the stag and then not invite the couple to the wedding. Question thought - is invitation yet to arrive or is it going to be a very small wedding - that would mitigate insult.

[LovesBeingWokenEveryNight]

Apart from the stag is there a reason he would have been invited to the eddibg?

[BeaWheesht]

Oh. I invited people to my hen do but not wedding.....

[SnotMeReally]

You know, I can just see the wife-to-be posting on here "AIBU to not want to invite some random friends of my DHs brother to our wedding"

presumably the brother is organising the stag and has thus invited his mate, fine, as his mate also knows his brother the groom, no problem - big leap from that to wedding invite though IMO

[Hassled]

Not unreasonable of them to not invite you to the wedding (you don't know what the budget is, how big a do, inviting the friends of your siblings would get out of hand very quickly) and equally not unreasonable of your DH not to go to the stag do. Make up some good reason why he can't be there.

[gallifrey]

can I just add that we all went on holiday together and know the couple quite well.

[ENormaSnob]

I do find it odd that people are good enough pals to attend the hen/stag do but not the wedding.

It wouldn't bother me though tbh, I'd just decline to go.

[Kneedeepindaisies]

I didn't invite anyone to my hen do who I wouldn't invite to the wedding because I think it does just look like they're making the numbers up.
I am however going on a hen do and I'm not invited to the wedding as its a small affair. I don't give a shit because I think the hen do will be a good laugh and the bride is lovely.

[Maggie111]

My husband was invited to a stag but not the wedding. Personally, it's not something I'd do and it is 'bad manners'.

However, if he'd enjoy himsself and wants to go then do it and sod whether it's proper or not. If youe DH thinks it's too cheeky then don't go.

[gallifrey]

The stag do also involves my dh driving several hundred miles to the other end of the country and has already cost him £50 deposit, not sure how much it will be altogether.

[spottyparrot]

Is it possible the stag invite is really from your dh's actual friend so he can have his own mate there? Rather than the brother inviting your dh? If so, it would be fine for your dh to go but not be invited to the wedding.

[OrangeLily]

Not sure. DH had a few guys at his he wasn't going to bother inviting because they 'wouldn't be bothered by a wedding' but I made him invite them as I was mortified.

I had a few girls at mine who couldn't make my wedding but that's because they would be abroad at the time.

[TobyLerone]

It's really weird to have people at your stag/hen night who you're not inviting to the wedding. And a bit rude.

YANBU, OP.