Now, before I begin, if it does appear that I am being u, I will apologise immediately, but I want some outside views first.
My mum looks after 2yo ds for me 2 days a week while I work. This is a mutual arrangement, my mum and ds have a lovely relationship and he loves going to hers. I do tell her how much I appreciate it, whenever it is her birthday or Mothers Day or something I always write a special little note in them telling her how much I appreciate her looking after ds for me.
Last week, I came down with the flu, and was really ill. I couldn't even move out of bed for 2 days. my ds went to my mums as usual although I was home sick. ds then caught the flu bug from me, and has passed it on to my mum and sister, who have in turn passed it onto my nan.
Now of course I feel bad about this. But this morning, when I dropped ds off with my mum as usual, she told me how my sister had been up all night ill with this bug, and when I said oh dear, she basically implied that it was all my fault in the first place for starting the bug. She made me feel really awful and guilty. Later, when I went to pick up ds, I asked her how she could possibly blame me for getting ill, and she said 'well where else did this bug come from then!' and that she couldnt believe that I thought that she was the one in the wrong, and that it was all my fault for allowing ds over hers while I was ill. We ended up having a huge row because I am honestly incredulous that she can blame me for the behaviour of a virus, and she is angry that I don't feel sorry!
AIBU? Or is she? She wasn't forced to have ds for me last week. If she'd have refused, I would have had no choice but to keep him with me anyway.
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TeaCuresEverything · 27/03/2013 16:29
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