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to ask this Mum to replace my dd trousers?

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BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 15:02:37

Dd was lining up to go into class today when a boy came barging through the line and pushed her into the wall.
She ended up with cut knees and ripped trousers. When I picked her up,her teacher said that the boy has form for this and has been spoken to each time for it.

WIBU to ask his Mum to replace my dds trousers? It was a pebble dash wall that she was pushed into so they are not easily repaired.

Gracie123 Wed 06-Feb-13 18:18:31

I guess it depends on culture within the school. We had a boy push another boy over this week and cracked his front tooth in half (I could see all the red blood supply and everything!!)
He's had root canal and will be getting a false tooth. He's a foreign boy, boarding here, so no NHS available and yes, we are billing the other boys parents for all the emergency dental costs that the school incurred.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 17:49:35

She has small cuts and stone bruises on her knees. She said she turned to try and get out from between him and the wall.

YouOldSlag Wed 06-Feb-13 17:33:57

Tryharder- I completely disagree. The OP at no point suggested she was going in all guns blazing.

This was no everyday joshing and rough and tumble. If you are deliberately shoved into a pebble dashed wall so hard that your clothes rip, then that is unacceptable behaviour and bloody dangerous. He could have taken the skin off her face.

Turning a blind eye and calling it rough play enables mini thugs to become grown up thugs.

seeker Wed 06-Feb-13 17:24:46

How on earth did he push her against a wall so hard her trousers were torn?

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 17:23:09

Yard duty teacher described it as him slamming into her.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 17:22:00

Maybe I didn't explain properly. Dds line was lining up against the wall. About 8 foot over the boys line was lining up. He came out of the line and deliberately ran into dd. There was no rough play,there was no play at all.
These trousers are a couple of weeks old and were in perfect condition this morning. Now she will have to wear track bottoms until I can buy and patch on saturday.

ClippedPhoenix Wed 06-Feb-13 17:19:56

I'd also do the same as fairenuff on this.

The boy's behaviour is not on no matter what.

YouOldSlag Wed 06-Feb-13 17:11:47

I would do as fairenuff says. it may just be the impetus that puts a stop to his roughness and bad behaviour. He will obviously continue unless proper action is taken.

Tryharder Wed 06-Feb-13 17:10:36

If you barge upto this woman guns blazing, a la Jeremy Kyle finger pointing etc demanding that she hand over thirty euros for a pair of trousers, you are liable to be told quite soundly to fuck off.

She might argue that the trousers already had a hole in. TBH, I wouldn't blame her. Kids push and shove all the time at school and I think it would be hard to prove that there was anything afoot other than a bit of rough play. It's hard to imagine that a push against a wall would result in trousers being rendered unwearable.

My kids come home all the time with holes in their uniform which is always attributed to them falling down usually as someone pushed them.

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 17:09:56

I wouldn't ask, no.

Trousers can be patched using iron on mending tape - fab for jagged edges!

steppemum Wed 06-Feb-13 17:06:27

I would do as Fairenuff says. Partly to try and get the cost back, and partly to flag up how this behaviour is not acceptable.

to mend the trousers:

buy and iron on patch, iron it on the bakc of the hole. Then use a sewing machine to stitch round the outside of the patch in striaght stitch to hold pathc on, and then zig zag just over the edges of the hole to stop the raggedy edges fraying.

I have done this on many school trousers (easier on darker trousers though). it is surprisingly effective as you don't see the whole patch.

cost = correct colour thread plus patch. I would do it for you if you were closer!

Fairenuff Wed 06-Feb-13 16:54:34

I would make an appointment with the class teacher initially. Take the trousers in and say that you would like the boy's parents to replace them. Ask the school to speak to the parents on your behalf.

If the teacher doesn't agree, then make an appointment to speak with the head teacher. I wouldn't approach the other parents directly but let the school deal with it.

MariusEarlobe Wed 06-Feb-13 16:51:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:43:53

Boy is around 10 or 11. They are in the same yard but not class and there are 3 classes in each yard.

YouOldSlag Wed 06-Feb-13 16:41:59

Also- there's a serious safety issue here. Your DD was shoved against pebble dash so hard that her clothes were ripped. I'd be down the school quick smart if I didn't think my child was safe.

ll31 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:40:57

Even still , how old is he? would be more inclined to ask school to pay tbh

YouOldSlag Wed 06-Feb-13 16:40:47

Well I think YANBU. Don't, as other posters suggested, hold back in case there are "issues" Nobody whould have to suffer because of his behaviour. You can't go round being too afraid to confront bad behaviour as that only enables it for longer.

What the boy did was unacceptable and there should be conseqeunces. Speak to the school and tell them you would like the parent to reimburse you. If you are nervous, ask the school to arrange the meeting between you and the parent.

obviously "speaking to" the boy isn't working and he is a repeat offender. I'd be livid.

PS I can't believe how expensive they are! I would definitely want money towards them!

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:39:01

Thank you Sick but they are steel blue (its a horrible colour). Dd is 9.

Sickandsad Wed 06-Feb-13 16:35:22

Are they royal blue OP and if so, what size? My DCs school PE trousers are this colour:|1;d|i_DN0yrrTgUjzM:

Will happily send you the ones DS has just outgrown if that would help. He's a tall almost 6 yr old. grin

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:34:01

Major that's exactly how I would word it.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:33:04

It wasn't accidental,the yard duty teacher saw it.

MajorB Wed 06-Feb-13 16:32:40

If this had happened to my child and their school trousers cost £33 (WTF?!) then I'd certainly ask the other parent to pay.

"Hi, I assume you have heard about your DS hurting my DD and ruining her trousers? She's a size x, and the school have said they're ok with her wearing trakkie bottoms until the end of the week so if you could have a new pair to me by then that would be great. I assume your DS will be spending his pocket money on them/doing chores to earn the money for them so he learns that unacceptable behaviour has consequences?"

Should cover it nicely, but then I may be in a bit of a stroppy mood today!

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:32:02

The local sports shop is the only stockist of this particular colour ll.
They started doing the iron on patches for the jumpers which were €7 compared to the crested jumper which was €38 for senior school size.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Feb-13 16:28:24

Yes,its about that Deep
Its extortionate the prices they charge. There were discussions of changing them to navy blue before summer break,but that never happened.

ll31 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:27:32

Would patch them, wouldnlt ask mother.. while boy may have form for this , it may still have been accidentally.. 33 seems v v expensive tbh. -and I'm in ireland too- how come they're so dear??

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