DD1 (DP's stepdaughter) is 5, DD2 is 7 months. DP has a 5 and 6 year old from previous marriage. When we first met DP had regular contact with his kids for the first year, DD1 really liked them (though they were sometimes mean to her) and all was going well, considering. Contact dwindled/was cancelled last minute and irregular for a year before stopping altogether about 14 months ago. DD1 was very upset and missed them terribly - she has just about stopped asking about them now. DD2 has obviously never met them. DP has been 'planning' to take his ex to court for contact since she stopped it but hasn't done anything about it yet, despite my support and encouragement. However, he includes them in calculations for things - i.e. when considering how many bedrooms we need/how many seats in car etc. When our car broke we got a 7 seater on his basis that we'd need it when we have his kids. However, if he does pull his finger out and sort contact out via court, I would not want our DD's to meet up with his kids til contact was established, regular and his relationship with the kids was rebuilt. IMO it isn't fair on any of the kids to keep getting attached then losing each other. AIBU?
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alisunshine29 · 16/01/2013 13:40
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