First of all this isnt a talk about the rights and wrongs of expecting people to sell their homes to pay for care - tbh I have no clue of the ins and outs of this and this post and the political implications of it, this is soley based of experience of my grandmother who sold her house to move to a home.
She needed more suitable housing and although she doesnt need care at the moment she does need people there to check on her and her needs will increase in the next few years. constantly and she cant maintain a house alone. My dad isnt in the country and neither my sister or I have homes we could fit another adult in plus we dont own our homes so we could offer no stability at all, we have no other family.
When she sold her house everyone was full of how disgusting it was that she had to sell it in order to pay for the care now and in the future (she is 72) and I understood the loss of her house upset her BUT my sister and I were really shocked at the sheer attachement to the house and the fact that it was not just seen as an assest to be used. There was a really clear split between older generation (grandmothers friends etc) and ours (we are in ours 20s).
To me my house is just somewhere to keep my stuff and stop me freezing to death in the winter. I hold no emotional attachement to it and tbh its really hard for me to truley understand the attachement that my grandmother and her friends have to the houses. There is one of her friends for example who I have known since I was a baby she had a wonderful house, but now its is falling apart because she cant care for it either financially or physically, she sits in one room with the fire on rather than heat it properly because she is afraid of the bill. It would make FAR more sense for her to sell it and move, her health would improve etc and yet she doesnt because she doesnt want to leave it. I am not exaggerating when I say I really think that staying in that house will kill her.
I have never owned a house I am not sure that I ever will so AIBU to just not get it? I really dont and people make me feel like a complete freak for not standing and wailing over the loss of a tiny victorian terrace.
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5dcsinneedofacleaner · 11/01/2013 09:07
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