Please help!
My long term partner proposed xmas day+i said yes. The problem is it was completly out of the blue, to be honest I thought there was more chance of us splitting up over xmas as things havnt been very good the past year mainly down to his drinking too much which has also made him put on weight and become really lazy which has been really winding me up. He was gambling a lot2. We were arguing a lot. He was making a bit of an effort to cut down b4 xmas but not enough. Felt like we wanted different things. We have a dd aged 3 together though. I knew if I said no then it would have been the end of our relationship and part of me really wants to save it, I do love him just not feeling 'in love with him' atm ifyswim.
Now all the family know, are giving us money etc and cards+hes talking about setting a date!
I want to see if our problems are still there after xmas, which I'm starting to fear that they may be. Found out last night he reactivated his betting account online after cancelling it himself cos he knew he was going overboard!
I'm not exited about it like I should be and feel like I'm faking exitment not to upset him, we've had a lovely xmas and so I havnt brought up any problems as its been nice not to argue+wanted dd to have nice xmas.
Do I call it off now+split for good or try and see if we can make it work before setting a date?
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got engaged xmas day+im not sure it was the right thing-help!
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help1234 · 02/01/2013 14:12
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