To get really fucked off with people on forums?

[Amytheflag]

I know I am I am but it's driving me potty.

I use a few forums to chat on and I'm getting fucked off with people who ask for advice on stuff and then get loads and loads of really helpful advice and people sharing personal stuff to help and then the update? They've ignored all of it and are whining AGAIN! About the exact... same... thing!

I don't know why it's annoying me so much! Please tell me it annoys other people?!

[Methe]

Forums ain't compulsory you know.

[Theicingontop]

Doesn't annoy me. I get that people mostly post to vent and probably know what to do about their situation to make it better, but just feel shit about it.

[juneybean]

I was just thinking this...

[dinkybinky]

I use a few forums to chat on


Maybe thats the problem

[ENormaSnob]

Yanbu

[WelshMaenad]

Fucking hell, I used to use a forum like this. It made me want to kill people by scooping their flabby empty brains out with a melon baller.

[itspeanuts]

I think you're taking it too seriously and perhaps need to step away for a bit. You don't know these people and voluntarily decide to offer advice, if they don't want to take it then that's their call. Just don't get involved with the updates, you've done your bit.

[Minshu]

It happens in RL, too. It's annoying when you invest emotional energy to help and it's ignored .

[meditrina]

I find that if I find myself getting annoyed or dwelling on things, it's time to step away into RL for a while.

[Amytheflag]

Thanks everyone! I think I do need to take a breather from the forum where people tend to do what I said, you are right! Maybe not unreasonable to be a little annoyed but not as annoyed as I am haha! Real world time for a bit :D

[WorraLorraTurkey]

YANBU but you get them on every forum...there's a couple on here too.

I think it's best to just not share your personal experiences with them or give them any more advice.

It's easy enough to skip their threads unless I'm in a bad mood

[AboutThyme]

YANBU but you get this a lot on various forums.

Sometimes people are hearing what you are saying and yet not ready to hear it themselves, sometimes they hear it but can't do anything about the situation, sometimes it's just attention. That's the problem with anonymous internet forums though.

[peaceandlovebunny]

off.
comes as a switch, button, mouseclick, whatever. sometimes known as logoff or shutdown.

try it.

[drizzlecake]

It's a fact of life (which I have taken many years to realise I have to admit) that people do not like being told what to do.

In the end people will do what they do............... and 99% of the time when they complain, worry, stress, whinge all they are doing is letting off steam or looking for sympathy, not for advice.

[laptopdancer]

I think you just have to realise that

1. some people aren't actually after advice but just want someone to listen (we're not here to offer a solutuion, just to listen Lucy). I've seen lots of people jump in with solutions on various forums when it's obvious that's not what the person is after.
   
2. sometimes your advice isn't practical for the person in question (and if they reject it it just looks like they are putting barriers up).
   
3. you can offer advice or a solution but just need to let go if the person doesnt take it

[Mia4]

People don't have to take your advice, or hear it.

If they are asking for it but ignoring everything sound then quite honestly either they don't want to hear it or your advice is crap/useless/not as relervant as you think.

The adage: Do something about it or put up and shut up should apply in some cases though- i agree. However in those cases either a) tell them that or b) ignore completely. If they are that kind of 'martyr' type person - i.e like my friend who moans about her cheating bf but always takes him back thinking she's 'won' some kind of competition- then they'll get the hint when people ignore them, change the subject or tell them 'this old chestnut?'