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to wonder if this person thinks I am completely stupid?

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wigglytuff Tue 27-Nov-12 12:42:08

last night I put a post on FB about something that has happened to me recently regarding XP and his usual twattishness(won't go into detaila s its a looooong story). I know this is a big mistake and I shouldn't have but I was angry and I am really stressed right now. A bit later I get a reply from a 'friend' (actually more of an aqauaintance who was a friend of XP before I met him) who basically agreed with xp being a twat etc. Now my second stupid mistake due to being angry was to reply to her saying how her comment was in direct contrast to the things she posted on XPs wall last friday.

Now on reflection I was a bit catty with my remark and my issue is not at all about the fact she is more his friend than mine, because he has known her a lot longer than me and I would fully expect her to 'take his side' anyway, if it was about that. The issue I did have however is what this 'friend' (I'm going to call her V) said next. She completely denied that she had spoken to XP (on FB or otherwise) in months and denied that he was even a friend of his on FB.

So i linked to his wall where the convo was in plain site and she still denied it and said she could see nothing on there from her account and claimed she was at another friends last friday anyway so couldn't have posted anything. i said I didn't care if she had spoken to him (not up to me to say who can be friends) but said that I didn't like people lying to me and left it at that.

Half an hour later I get a pm from V saying she will give me her FB password and I can check for myself there are no messages from her on his wall. I ignore the pm but check XPs wall myself to see that everyone of her messages have now gone- to the point that XP and others comments make no sense now as they were replies to hers. Throughout the night I get several other pms saying she is not lying and I should check as there is nothing there.

I just don't get what she was thinking to go to that amount of effort confused

-be friends with a total twat- ok thats fine obviously, thats her choice

-lie to me by denying she is friends- well a bit weird, maybe trying not to hurt my feelings but don't expect me to be happy at being lied to

-lie about lying and delete any possible evidence that you might have lied- wtf does she think I'm so stupid I would forget I saw it before but now it was magically gone? why go to those lengths to cover it up? wouldn't you just admit it and say sorry (for lying)or even just say nothing and forget about it? I just don't get it.

Softlysoftly Tue 27-Nov-12 12:45:19

Erm are you both 13?

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 27-Nov-12 12:45:48

WTF were you thinking washing your dirty linen on FB??? hmm

She probably thinks you are stupid and have far too much time on your hands to be honest.

waltermittymistletoe Tue 27-Nov-12 12:46:59

Why do you care?

PinsAndNoodles Tue 27-Nov-12 12:48:36

If she's still more his friend than yours, why are you still friends with her?

I would unfriend her and move on.

curiousuze Tue 27-Nov-12 12:49:07

I think you should forget all this and just concentrate on studying for your GCSEs.

She was probably just fishing for information with her first message, some people just like to know the gossip. It was a mistake putting it on fb but its done now. Can you block her or something? She doesn't sound like the sort of person I would want to stay friends with.

When ex and I split up, I got an email from one of his female friends. Just saying sorry to hear we'd split up and asking if there was anything she could do etc - she just wanted to know what was going on. I never replied. Especially as I'd found out by reading his emails a while before that the two week holiday he had been on with his 'friend' was actually her and that they had a previous relationship etc. I have no idea why she thought it was her place to email me but maybe she just hadn't grown up yet.

gordyslovesheep Tue 27-Nov-12 12:52:22

seriously? I mean really ...seriously?

HullyEastergully Tue 27-Nov-12 12:53:25

yeah but no but yeah but no but and that

waltermittymistletoe Tue 27-Nov-12 12:53:50

I think you should forget all this and just concentrate on studying for your GCSEs. grin

pinkyredrose Tue 27-Nov-12 12:55:02

OP you sound like my ex. Always airing our dirty laundry and double questioning everything.

Note i said my ex.

I suggest you grow up.

wigglytuff Tue 27-Nov-12 12:57:08

I know the rule is to never put stuff on FB that was my mistake I admit it and was probably a bit out of order with my comment and would have apologised if i didn't then get a whole page of lies in return.

I was just shocked that someone would lie that blatantly to me and though I was that stupid I would just forget what I had seen.

It was like when my DC ate a choclate biscuit, then denied he had even though there was choc all round his mouth. When I said how did you get choc round you mouth? he replied there wasn't any, wiped his mouth on his sleeve and said see no chcolate. He was about 3 then. I don't expect the same behaviour from a grown woman with kids of her own tbh.

waltermittymistletoe Tue 27-Nov-12 12:58:56

Yes, but why do you care?

Tweasels Tue 27-Nov-12 13:03:06

Erm, whilst I enjoyed the chocolate biscuit analogy, it doesn't really make things any clearer.

If you can't deal with stuff that happens on Facebook, don't go on it.

PoshPaula Tue 27-Nov-12 13:03:50

I'm still laughing at Curiousuze's post!

wigglytuff Tue 27-Nov-12 13:18:22

ok i don't actually care that much and I can handle FB stuff fine, I was just shocked someone would think I am that stupid, that I would be fooled by something so simply a 3 year old could carry it out. Obviously I am in the wrong there and I apologise for asking for opinions on it.

If it makes the situation clearer I posted: Grrr pissed off I've been let down for school pickup thursday- can anyone help out?

V replied with: wish I could help [she lives 100+ miles away]....xp is such a dick head , he's always messing the kids about

note I didn't mention him, she (correctly) assumed it was him that let me down

I replied that if she thought that about XP why did she tell him that he was such a great father and did so much for his kids etc. only a few days ago. This was the stuff she denied writing and then deleted.

waltermittymistletoe Tue 27-Nov-12 13:35:04

Taking FB out of the equation, I actually don't think you WBU to confront her.

But moving forward you should just unfriend.

curiousuze Tue 27-Nov-12 13:36:43

Probably best to put a cryptic, passive aggressive status up on Facebook. Like 'I wonder if people think I am completely stupid?'

Then your friends can ask 'U ok hun?'

And you can say 'I'm ok just ppl pissing me off. Drinks soon, yeah?'

Isn't that how these things go?

waltermittymistletoe Tue 27-Nov-12 13:44:25

curious I love you! Hun wink grin

TroublesomeEx Tue 27-Nov-12 13:57:22

Once again, don't conduct your life and relationships on Facebook and then you won't ever have to worry about how your or anyone else is coming across on Facebook.

curious grin

wigglytuff Tue 27-Nov-12 14:10:54

curiousuze isn't it ironic, given the gcse comment, how you come across as a bit of a playground bully?

anyway I've learnt my lesson, thanks for all your advice.

TroublesomeEx Tue 27-Nov-12 14:33:43

Why is that ironic?

Curious is just making the observation that it's all a bit childish. Which it is. It's not bullying to recognise that.

It is all a bit childish.

I saw a status very similar to that, your name doesn't start with 'S' does it?

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