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to be upset with Nursery for letting my 18 month old play out in this weather when she's been in hospital 3 times this year with pneumonia and breathing difficulties

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designergirl Thu 22-Nov-12 16:23:24

I just went to pick my daughter up, it's really windy, cold and starting to rain and she was playing outside as were all the other children her age. She has been in hospital 3 times this year with pneumonia and breathing difficulties, in February,July and September. I wouldn't let her play out in this weather at home and I was so upset with the staff that I shouted at them. I wrote in her book that she has a hat, mittens and scarf but she didn't have any of them on, and I saw her fall over. I think the wind blew her over but she might have just fallen over.Am I being unreasonable?
I know OFSTED require them to play outside and generally I don't mind her playing out. I just think it's a bit lacking in common sense to let her play out in this awful weather. The wind is so strong it's just blown an empty hanging basket all the way down our street.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 16:26:12

I think the fresh air will do her good won't it?

As long as she had her coat on and was supervised, I don't see a problem really.

If it was too windy for her I'm sure she'd complain/cry and they'd take her back in.

Sirzy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:26:18

I am amazed they had any children playing out if the weather is like it is here TBH!

I dont think her having been ill has anything to do with it though. DS has severe asthma and has had pneumonia a lot but I don't expect nursery to treat him differently (beyond making sure he takes his inhalers outside when they go)

Sirzy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:27:27

And why would you tell them she had hat mitterns and scarf if you expected her to be kept inside? Why would she need them inside?

JaquelineHyde Thu 22-Nov-12 16:27:36


If you didn't want her to play outside then you should have left strict instructions explaining the reasons for this.

They should have made sure all the children were wrapped up properly but that is it.

Going around shouting at people is just bloody pathetic.

JaquelineHyde Thu 22-Nov-12 16:29:54

I also suspect your dd would ahve been really, really upset having to watch all her friends run around outside whilst she was kept couped up inside.

BeerTricksPott3r Thu 22-Nov-12 16:30:08

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TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 22-Nov-12 16:30:26

Shouting at the Nursery staff that look after your dc?

That's nice. Very nice.

If you want her to remain inside due to illness then tell them in the morning. Calmly. Without shouting.

designergirl Thu 22-Nov-12 16:30:52

I don't mind her playing out normally, in normal weather, as I said in my post but it was ( and is) blowing a gale and starting to rain and cold and I saw her fall over. The weather seems a bit extreme to be letting small children play out

CMOTDibbler Thu 22-Nov-12 16:31:45

YABU - playing outside is good for children, and although its windy here, its nowhere near cold enough to need hat/scarf (surely unsafe for a playing toddler anyway)/and mittens.

YABVVVVVU to shout at the staff

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 22-Nov-12 16:32:09

A hat, mittens and scarf would have made no difference to a breathing condition.

I think yabu. Like you say, they are supposed to be able to go outside, and if your dd wanted to go out with other children, then you can't expect them to leave one member of staff inside for just one child, or expect them to tell her no.

Sirzy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:32:13

So you think none of the children should have been outside playing (fair enough if your weather is like here) or you think your daughter should be treated differently? (very unreasonable)

designergirl Thu 22-Nov-12 16:33:42

Fair enough about the shouting but I did not expect them to be letting her play out in such weather. My husband dropped her off this morning and I did not know what the weather was going to be like.

LeeCoakley Thu 22-Nov-12 16:35:20

I thought it was only teachers who were expected to be mind-readers. I will include nursery staff from now on.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 22-Nov-12 16:35:43

If you want to be able to dictate whether your child goes outside or not, you need to hire a nanny instead of using a nursery.

designergirl Thu 22-Nov-12 16:36:10

well Sirzy that's what I'm wondering, is it fair enough for me not to want her to play out in such weather. Normally I don't mind her playing out even if it's a bit cold sometime.

BeerTricksPott3r Thu 22-Nov-12 16:36:11

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WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 16:36:23

How can a child actually move about properly enough to play if they're all bundled up with hats, scarves and mittens?

I would imagine she'd be very uncomfortable, restricted in her movement and probably far to warm after playing for a while.

I remember my Mum bundling me up in these things and the relief I felt when I ripped them off.

honeytea Thu 22-Nov-12 16:36:43

Cold weather doesn't make kids ill. Infact research shows kids are less I'll when they spend time outside, inside they are more likely to share germs.

Ywbu to shout at her carers, I bet they would prefer to have been sat inside themselves rather than out in the cold, they were doing it for the kids.

The law here in Sweden is that unless it is below -15 kids have to have at least 2 hours of outside time a day, maybe you should consider spending some money on a warm jacket.

Sirzy Thu 22-Nov-12 16:36:48

I think you need to decide how differently you expect nursery to teach her. With winter coming up chances are they will be out playing in cold snowy weather. Do you want her to be kept back from her friends?

AlienRefluxLooksLikeSnow Thu 22-Nov-12 16:37:13

YABU for shouting at the staff, you don't know it was the wind that blew her over either, which seems to be one of your main problems, I'm sure if it was so strong children were getting blown away they would have taken them in. Not trying to be snarky OP but you didn't tell them she couldn't go out, that was their call then, you wouldn't have let her at home, but hey she's not at home is she?

threepiecesuite Thu 22-Nov-12 16:37:18

It's blowing a gale here too but very mild. My DD is 2 and just getting over her third cold since Sept. I'd much prefer she had half an hour's running around in the garden time than them all coughing and spluttering over each other in the book corner.

designergirl Thu 22-Nov-12 16:37:29

I have put in her book often that she has been in hospital and why. I don't expect them to be mind readers, just to have some common sense.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 16:38:30

Normally I don't mind her playing out even if it's a bit cold sometime

That's very good of you grin

Seriously, you seem to be bubble wrapping a bit here.

Playing outside on a windy day will not cause your child to develop a lung infection.

gymboywalton Thu 22-Nov-12 16:38:38

you know that pneumonia is caused by a virus or a bacteria, not by wet weather?

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