Few years ago ex was becoming a father again (we had split up) with someonelse we had a dc of 5 yr old at the time. It came totally out of the blue with him saying oh by the way I have a baby on the way, we had just come back from a day trip out.
I spoke with a family member of his and asked if they knew of this as I coudn,t get an answer from ex he clammed up and cut of contact with me. and I was promptly told that it had nothing to do with me and It was not my place to say anything to dc as it was just some casual relationship who he saw every now and again. At this stage it transpired that the lady was six months gone at the time. I wanted to prepare dc for this in good time.
I know that it had nothing to do with me but my concearn was everything to do with dc. I at least thought that this could be explained to dc properly instead of dc just being landed with a new sibling on a contact visit.
So the baby is born and dc see,s child once when a few weeks old because ex took him there on a contact visit without being told that this is dc sibling. I know because dc told me when he came back that daddy took me to see a baby and daddy was kissing the new baby.
Ex is a Dipper dad meaning he dips in and out of dc life when it suits and has been known to be absent from dc life for 18 months at a time.
Now last week ex wants dc to see his sibling after years of not seeing him since he was a baby. Dc said to me I didn,t know I had a brother daddy said I have. What the bloody hell do I do as I knew this would happen but was told to mind my own buisiness. I ahve grave reservasions about this please advice needed.
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bongobaby · 11/11/2012 16:22
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