Fuck's sake. Every year it's something.....
I'd like to hibernate around about 22nd Dec and be gently roused just before Jan 2013. Situation is this:
Last year had lovely eldest step daughter and my mum to us, with my dh (my son from previous marriage, who lives with us) having had youngest step daughter refuse to come. She refused to come as she dislikes me. Having tried for 5 years to get on/welcome her/form some tentative relationship with her..... I now give up. She proceeded to inform others that I'd prevented her coming over the doorstep (this, after weeks of "is there anything you'd particularly like for Xmas?/we hope you'll come visit on Christmas Day with your sister. We'd like that very much")
My dad dad died in 2006. Since then, every year we go through a "you do whatever you'd like, don't worry about me" from MY mum who then either comes for a few hours on the day or, despite lots of invites, says "I don't think I'll bother" and doesn't show. She is very lonely and I try to travel the 160 mile round trip to see her, even just for lunch, as often as I can.
This year, my sister has invited us all to hers (lives a 4 hr drive away). I'd love to go and said me and DH would take MY mum with us so, logistically, quite a bit of toing and froing for me and DH but, IT IS CHRISTMAS. Spoke to my mum last night after emailing her my plan. She won't go (she dislikes my sister's partner) and said "I've had lots of happy Christmas's, I don't mind being alone, you go without me..... I'll be fine here with my dogs". This, from a woman who I worry constantly about, because she's so lonely and has no friends near her. I speak with her daily. Anything from 15 mins to an hour +. Same for my sister. My mum is 72. I am 50.
I feel like just cancelling the whole thing. My son, will go to his dad's for Xmas as it's "dad's turn" to have him. Difficult this, as son would rather not. He's 11 and has aspergers and OCD so, preparing him to leave the comfort and safety of home, is always a trial for him.... And me.
If I just pretend its not happening.... Will it all go away?
Aaahhhgg! ( pulls hair out)
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Eliza22 · 08/11/2012 09:44
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