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AIBU to throw my brother out? *petty but im annoyed*

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weirdlyunique Sat 03-Nov-12 15:54:01

For the last 4 weeks straight my brother who is living with me has told me the result of the f1 before i have had a chance to watch it ( i am aware this is petty and the sport is not something most people like/watch ect but i watched it with my dad for a long time growing up and continue to keep up with it i find it fascinating)

weeks 1: he tells me after i say im off to watch the f1 and he says oh you know vettle won and i grr and choice words are said from me and said please dont do that again i havent watched it ect

week 2: same thing i wake up hes looking at the news online and says oh vettle won again i repeat to him again do not tll me the result i like to watch it you wouldnt like if i told you how a film ended before you watched it would you

week 3: same blimmin thing for qualifing as well as the actual race this time i said next time i throwing your computer out the window he jokingly apologises saying he didnt realise i hadnt watched it

now week 4 he did the same thing for qualifying again and i had to leave the room before murdering him

He did apologise but in a joking well i didnt realise you were off to watch it and hadnt seen it i mean i dont understand the loigic of that i say im off to watch f1 or he sees me turn on the telly and asks what im doing so why why why the feck would he continue to spoil it for me

Can i throw him out, tell him to get his own place and stop leaching off me because frankly i know its petty but just grrr im annoyed

Roseformeplease Sat 03-Nov-12 15:59:36

YABU because car racing is unbelievably tedious. YANBU to want to throw him out as he is behaving like he is 7 years old.

GouhlishGordonsAaaaahlive Sat 03-Nov-12 16:01:08

That would really piss me off! DP and I stay in media isolation until we get a chance to watch it - usually once kids are in bed! KTBO (kick the bastard out)!!!

puds11 Sat 03-Nov-12 16:02:47

That's just mean for no reason! Does he do it purposely to upset you? If so i would be worried!

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Sat 03-Nov-12 16:03:02

I'm with Rose on this one.

whois Sat 03-Nov-12 16:04:53


DP and I would kick each other out if one let slip the F1 result before we'd watched on iPlayer!

weirdlyunique Sat 03-Nov-12 16:05:51

Rose: Maybe its because i cant drive but this season is going to go to the wire and i love it i cant help it and although it was better a couple of years ago i am still in love with it and love cheering the people i like to win and booing the ones who act like asshats aka hamilton smile

Goulish: Media isolation would be good all i am asking is for him to keep his mouth shut about it untill i have watched it and then i will happily talk the hind legs off a donkey about the race

I guess i am annoyed this is my house and i pay for it by working blimmin hard all week and he is here because i have spare rooms and "isnt it nice if you help out your brother" grrr but i would not mind as much if he would just keep stum

DontmindifIdo Sat 03-Nov-12 16:09:17

how long are you expected to have him at your home? Eventually, you are going to want to kill him, and there's not going to be your mum there to stop you and make you both go to your rooms. Living with siblings as adults does not work long term.

weirdlyunique Sat 03-Nov-12 16:17:14

i have no idea why he does it his excuse is always i didnt realise or i thought you had seen it or were watching it live ect

dontmind: its not eventually i will want to kill him i do now he tried to ask me if i needed anything at the shop and i just grrr and he asked me why i was annoyed and i told him and he laughed and said i didnt realise you hadnt seen it and thought you were just talking about to which i replied even though my exact words were im off to watch the f1 and he just looked at me and i throw a shoe at him and he left

Yes i am aware it is petty much bigger issues in the world its only a race ect i should get over it but god help him im going to kill him or throw his stuff out in the street while hes out but frankly i couldnt deal with the you have to be nice to your brother hes your only family when im gone and hes going to need your help ect from my dad ....grrr please note i am the younger sibling but oh so much more responsible

FatimaLovesBread Sat 03-Nov-12 16:17:15

YANBU My sister would kill me if I did this to her. But I know that F1 is important to her and so I check whether she's watched it and keep schtum.
My DSis and I are also big in to bikes and neither of us would leak the result to the other

It screams of childishness and lack of respect

Roseformeplease Sat 03-Nov-12 16:19:57

My sister is working at the Abu Dhabi Grand Prix and parked in Vettle's parking space. Still think it is boring but you should issue an ultimatum. Shut up or get out.

DontmindifIdo Sat 03-Nov-12 16:32:38

Is he living with you indefinately or do you have an end date? If not, you need to start sorting that out...

StuntGirl Sat 03-Nov-12 16:33:36

Thing is, he must know you haven't watched it (partly because you've bloody told him so!) so he must be doing it maliciously. Why I don't know. He obbiously enjoys winding you up, as siblings are wont to do!

I would have him sit down for a word. Explain that you are aware its a small thing but that he either shows you a bit of respect and doesn't mention the race til you've seen it or you'll have to ask him to find his own place. And yes, I'd be considering asking him to leave if he carried on like this, so it won't affect your relationship. You're letting him stay at yours and he acts like an annoying child. Where's the respect and appreciation for what you're doing for him?

WineGoggles Sat 03-Nov-12 16:34:37

YANBU. It sounds like he thinks it's all a big joke and that you're not seriously pissed off. How old is he because he sounds rather immature? I'd be inclined to tell him straight that you've asked him not to tell you the results, that it ruins it for you, that he's been told x number of times and that if it happens again he has to move out.

Maryz Sat 03-Nov-12 16:38:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StuntGirl Sat 03-Nov-12 16:40:37

Maryz grin

weirdlyunique Sat 03-Nov-12 16:50:52

Winegoggles: im 24 and he is 26

Rose: instantly jealous she is working at the grand prix and vettle just seems so lovely smile

Stuntgirl: thats exactly what i think i bloody well told you so you do know so there is no excuse especially in continuous weeks the same blimmin thing

Mayz: i disagree so much its one of the only things i get really into watching the team dynamics the racing the stupid mistakes and the rivalries its really good

He just rang to check if i wanted anything again from the shop trying to be helpfull and said dont be cross i cant help it to which my reply was to hang up on him i know not very mature but im still annoyed

There is nothing wrong with him except he is a idiot and he has had every member of the family running around after him for his whole life and has the whole the world owes me a favour mentality and while thats fine for him to have his life like that because i dont care if thats how he chooses to be but leave me and my love of f1 out of it !!

FatimaLovesBread Sat 03-Nov-12 16:54:50

Why can't he help it? Course he can help it. Just don't mention the F1 angry

WhereYouLeftIt Sat 03-Nov-12 17:09:38

" but frankly i couldnt deal with the you have to be nice to your brother hes your only family when im gone and hes going to need your help ect from my dad ....grrr please note i am the younger sibling but oh so much more responsible"

This is not about F1. This is about your father/parents insisting that you be responsible for your elder fuckwit of a brother. It is about being guilt-tripped into doing something that you shouldn't have to do.

You need to tell your brother that it is time for him to move out and take responsibility for himself.

Cahoots Sat 03-Nov-12 17:15:47

Can't you disable your Internet connection and your tv signal the night before and only reconnect it after you have reminded him not to tell you the results in the morning?

weirdlyunique Sat 03-Nov-12 17:29:12

i am going to print some rules/reminders and stick them to every avaiable surface that he goes near his computer ect that say

Do not speak about f1 unless you are spoken to and you have been verbally told and have written verification (cant be too careful)

Dont speak to me during a film i am engrossed in and do not tell me the ending or i will chop off your hands

Do not eat sausage rolls because i love them and they are not for sharing

Same with cheesecake, roast potatoes and any sandwiches in the fridge smile

is it bad that these are the the only things that would really annoy me? everything else is kind of not a big deal?

MuddlingMackem Sat 03-Nov-12 17:48:49

YANBU about the F1. However, YABVU to let your brother stay any longer.

Give him a week to find something, and boot him out. If he hasn't found anything else let your indulgent parents put up with him. He's their kid so return the problem they created to whence it came. grin

I once unthinkingly told a housemate that their football team had lost before he'd seen the highlights programme (mine had been hammered, I'd been at the match and, when asked by him how it went replied, 'At least your team managed to get a goal' in a grumpy manner.) As soon as I realised what I'd done I felt really bad and apologised, so your brother's continued spoiling sounds either malicious or spiteful and I wouldn't put up with it any longer.

HecatePhosphorus Sat 03-Nov-12 17:55:28

Of course he can help it. Don't fool yourself. He's doing it on purpose.

I'd be reminding him that he's a guest in my home - something that can change, particularly since he isn't even paying his way.

Sometimes people who are taking the piss need to be reminded of their vulnerability grin

StuntGirl Sat 03-Nov-12 18:01:56

Oh I totally missed that nice little guilt trip courtesy of your parents (and that he's older) - sod the lot of them! In light of that I am even more in minded that he should move out and look after himself.

Is there a specific reason (other than over indulgence?) that your brother needs to stay with you?

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