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I don't understand my friend.

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Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:32:57

We have known each other for twenty years. Very close friends on and off, although very different people. We had a fall out about eighteen months ago, stopped talking, I unfriended her on fb.

She requested we become friends again, I thought about it, thought we should put water under the bridge, so refriended her. Thought being just fb friends was silly, so called her; she hung up on me!

I don't get it! Does she want to be my friend or not?

gordyslovesheep Thu 01-Nov-12 23:34:37

no she is just nosey x

WorraLiberty Thu 01-Nov-12 23:35:01

Did you speak on FB first?

What did you say on the phone?

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:35:24

That's what I thought sad

flossy101 Thu 01-Nov-12 23:36:06

How odd. Why did you fall out?

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:37:08

On the phone, I said, "oh, hi, x, it's cathycomehome", and she said, "I'm going to bed" , dialling tone.

missymoomoomee Thu 01-Nov-12 23:37:38

Maybe she accidently clicked on you on FB, I have done this before now and not realised. It comes up at the side with 'people you know' and its easily done. (Unless its changed in the last few months since I deactivated mine)

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:38:54

Maybe. But I left it a while, so surely she could've just rescinded the request?

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:40:05

We fell out for a complicated reason. I think my view of it would be different from hers.

WorraLiberty Thu 01-Nov-12 23:40:22

Maybe it freaked her out a bit that you accepted her request and then rang her, instead of sending her a message first?

Still no excuse for hanging up though, that's just rude.

quoteunquote Thu 01-Nov-12 23:41:59

go with your original diagnosis of the relationship, you gave a second go, she not interested, there are seven billion other people to spend positive energy on, find one that is worthwhile.

missymoomoomee Thu 01-Nov-12 23:42:06

She might not have known she sent it (again I did this) It wasn't until I went nosing about in the settings (I think) that I saw I had friend requested someone I didn't know but we had a lot of mutual friends.

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:42:27

Ah, well. I guess it doesn't matter really, but it made me a bit sad

SoleSource Thu 01-Nov-12 23:45:29

Nosey cow! unfriend

WelshMaenad Thu 01-Nov-12 23:47:24

Did you phone her just now??

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:47:48

Well, I have just unfriended, as life was less worrying without wondering about what she was thinking!

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:48:15

No, I phoned her at 9.45

SoleSource Thu 01-Nov-12 23:48:46

sad for you. Mind gaming bitches you can do without.

WelshMaenad Thu 01-Nov-12 23:51:45

That's still late for a chat! After 9pm is emergencies-only for pretty much everyone I know, especially if you have kids. Unless you text first. She was probably caught completely on the hop to get a call from you at that hour.

Cathycomehome Thu 01-Nov-12 23:55:29

She doesn't have kids. I think I'm finding it hard to let go of a friendship that's probably over, to be honest. I just don't get why she refriended.

lovebunny Fri 02-Nov-12 00:26:50

just let it go. what does it matter? friendship is an illusion.

bragmatic Fri 02-Nov-12 00:31:27

This will play out in two ways: She meant to friend you, but was caught totally off guard when you called, and panicked. She's now feeling awkward/bad and she'll make contact with you.


She didn't mean to friend you (but even if she didn't, when you accepted the friend request, she'd have received a message saying so, so she should have realised...) and she doesn't want to re-kindle the friendship.

Either way, leave it. She'll contact you or she won't. I'd be feeling a bit bummed though. Those situations are just all a but....yukky.

KittyFane1 Fri 02-Nov-12 07:52:50

Sounds like she didn't want your friendship but still wanted to have a look at what you're doing on FB.

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