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Fakebook Wed 24-Oct-12 21:13:24

Dd goes to an after school club on Wednesdays. Last June, I came across a group of boys and one girl swearing at and kicking a boy, calling him gay and telling him they were going to "beat the shit" out of him. Back then I walked up to the boy being picked on and asked him if he was ok, and then sternly looked at the other boys until they got scared and ran off. I stayed with this boy until my dd was done.

So fast forward to today. After picking up dd we walked around the corner and the same boys were picking on the boy again. This time I heard one of them call him a "pussy" and was walking towards him. I got in his way with my pushchair and shouted at him asking him "what do you think you're doing?". They got scared and stood there in stunned silence. I then told them how dare they pick on someone like that and then I walked back inside to report them to the people running the club.

By the time we came back out they'd all dispersed but I know they come to the club regularly and ive seen then with their parents too. The people running the club can't really discipline them.

Wibu to find out their names and which school they go to and report them to their head teacher so they can be punished? I absolutely loathe bullies and today I was red in the face with anger with what I saw. The boy they were picking on thanked me as I left and it broke my heart. The arseholes got away with it again.

gordyslovesheep Wed 24-Oct-12 21:14:40


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Fakebook Wed 24-Oct-12 21:16:23

Another thing that pisses me off is that the first time I saw this, there were other parents standing around chatting and no one said anything or spoke up, and today there were a group of 6th formers chatting to one another and no one noticed this was happening right next to them. Why are people blind to children being bullied?

Shaky Wed 24-Oct-12 21:17:48

Well done you, I hate bullies

Ithinkitsjustme Wed 24-Oct-12 21:27:46

I'd definite;ly report it to someone, do you know the lad being bullied? If so I'd speak to his parents and encourage them to involve the police. It sounds like it is a case of assault and these kids need to be stopped in their tracks. Good on you for not turning your back.

cfc Wed 24-Oct-12 21:40:09

YABU - but I got a hard time on MN for asking if IWIBU to go to a school after I saw a grown man manhandle a child in front of my house, whilst en route to local school. This was complete with swearing, shouting, holding child by front of coat and his own mother ignored this - as did the big fella at the busstop nearby.

I get why people are afraid to step up and intervene - but I am not. I intervened then at the time and later went to the school to tell the head.

Well done you - bullies are fucking shit-houses. Stand up to them and they fall to dust. There's a saying, something about evil conquers when good (wo-)men stand idle...

I once saw a young girl step in between two fighting teens in a playground as I rounded a corner to DS' nursery - so all is not lost!!

Try and speak to his parents. I'd want to know.

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 24-Oct-12 21:44:17

Good for you. Don't let this one go OP.

This needs a mention to the HT immediately - tomorrow morning, first thing. I'd also want to know what happened after the report. It is vile in every single respect. I would write down what happened in absolute detail too and be prepared to go into the office and put names to faces using the school photo ids.

CrikeyOHare Wed 24-Oct-12 21:52:17

I was once stopped in the street by a woman I didn't know asking me if I was DS's mum. I said I was, and she told me that she'd stopped a group of boys attacking my DS (8 at the time) - they had him on the ground and were kicking him. This was on school premises and she'd gone straight into reception & reported it but had been concerned that the staff hadn't been all that interested angry.

I kicked up merry hell about it, of course - but without the kindness & concern of that woman I might never have known a thing about it. I've always been grateful to her for that.

Please report what you've seen, OP & if you don't feel it's being taken seriously then try and track down his mum or dad and tell them directly.

Fakebook Wed 24-Oct-12 22:01:05

Thanks for the replies. I was a bit concerned that I was going a bit ott reporting them to their schools.

Last June I wanted to stay with the boy until his parents came to pick him up but my DS was only 5 months and started getting cranky so I had to rush home. I agree, his parents should definitely know what's happening.

Dd has another class on Saturday, so I will see if they come again. I'll find out their names and their school somehow.

VioletStar Wed 24-Oct-12 22:03:19

If you can find the school out then school will have photos of kids you can look at to identify. YANBU - well done you!

pigletmania Wed 24-Oct-12 22:09:12

YANBU I would definitely report it. You could ask the boy for thse kds names, I don't think the bullies will ffer you their names

Startailoforangeandgold Wed 24-Oct-12 22:16:41

DD1 is on the receiving end of a lot of nonsense. Much of which she doesn't bother to moan about.

I'm very grateful for the six form girl who stood up for her on the bus.

MushroomSoup Wed 24-Oct-12 22:59:27

I'm a Headteacher and I'd be really grateful if you passed this info onto me.

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