To expect that women attending forum meets don't need to bring their husbands?

[Vagfresh]

The members who chat are all women. When arranging a forum meet shouldn't those attending be only the 'chattees'?

Fair enough to bring babies/small children along - but why a husband? Never 'chatted' online to said husband, and it does change the dynamics of the meet.

What do you think?

[megandraper]

There are some husbands on the forum, aren't there? I have seen some men post.

I don't go to meets. If I did, I would need to bring DH, as I have a disability that restricts my mobility. Just saying.

[NiffStipplesHauntsLaSenza]

I would think it's weird

[merlottits]

Oh no, hate women who bring their husbands along. I wouldn't like it and it does change the dynamics.
My sister always tries to bring her DH to women stuff. She likes to be attached at the hip to him at all times.
Not for me. If people brought husbands I would be reluctant to attend...but I doubt anyone would care if I didn't show

[NiffStipplesHauntsLaSenza]

Except in certain circumstances obviously

Sorry bedhopper

[Katisha]

I would say it definitely affects the dynamic.

[Petsinmyputridpudenda]

I've met a few mums from here and my dh came ' to drop me off' the nosey fucker just wanted to see what they were like.

[YourHandInMyHand]

Why does he want to come?

It does affect the dynamic. I remember getting ready for a girls night out once and one of the girl's boyfriends had popped round. It did completely changed the dynamic and felt very odd.

[megandraper]

No problem NiffS - I can see it seems odd - part of the reason I don't do stuff like this :)

[Vagfresh]

It's not this forum. It is most definitely all women.

bed -fair enough if you have a disability.

I wouldn't want to take mine. He wouldn't 'know' anyone or what we are talking about.

[EdithWeston]

If the MNetter s the man, then of course he should be there.

But if, as OP describes, he's third party, then it's a bit like bringing any other non-MNetter along whether you are related or not. If you need someone along for logistic reasons, perhaps introduce them maybe over one drink, then send them off to amuse themselves.

Or have specific OH creche?

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Ooh, I'd be quite curious to meet some posters' husbands!

It'd be brilliantly awkward, wouldn't it? 'Ah, hello, I remember you, your wife is the one who posted about your upsetting bottom trouble and the funny issue you had with losing your erection when the cat jumped on the bed! How nice to meet you!'

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

I can see how it would change the dynamics, but I think it's understandable if its the first time someone has met a big group of people. They might not be confident enough to go it alone, that sort of thing scares the crap out of some people, no matter how much they want to do it.

I can't say I'd ever want to bring my DH to something like that, and it would probably be his idea of hell anyway.

[AngelDelightIsIndeedDelightful]

It is most definitely all women

If you've met irl before then fair enough, you have a point. If you haven't, however, then I wouldn't have a problem with anyone belonging along a partner just in case. I've been on the receiving end of several internet trolls in my time, some of whom are extremely plausible and aren't caught out in their lies for years.

[musicalendorphins]

Like Alex and Simon on The Real Housewives of NY. Ugh.

[musicalendorphins]

(even though I do like Alex)

[Mrsjay]

My friend brought her husband to an arranged all women other friends birthday weekend it was awkward,

Maybe the person you mets husband wanted to make sure you were not a hairy man pretending to be a woman

[Vagfresh]

Yes music Alex and Simon go everywhere together, especially clothes shopping -puke.

Hmm Mrsjay maybe it IS the husband calling the shots. I hadn't considered that.

[BadgersBottom]

Ah, hello, I remember you, your wife is the one who posted about your upsetting bottom trouble and the funny issue you had with losing your erection when the cat jumped on the bed!

[Vagfresh]

But Angeldelights I don't think a troll would meet up. Surely they can only lie behind the safety of the internet??

But I can see your point.

[Mrsjay]

[catgirl1976]

I doubt mine could think of anything worse

Some people are like that

Maybe he was interested but it does sound a bit odd if he was not on the forums

[Mrsjay]

MY husband is antisocial a little bit shy he would rather chew his right foot off than go and meet new people ,

[ENormaSnob]

at lrd.

I think it's odd to say the least.

[DZoH]

My twopennorth for what it`s worth. I am male and a regular forum poster, my wife is also a regular forum poster. If there were a local daytime meet for young mums with babies/toddlers then we would probably not attend as we are old and wrinkly way past those years and would have little in common and have no great desire to run the grandparents creche.

If it were an evening meet sans enfants then we would both happily attend. If the meet were with people that we had met before and not behaved so badly as to be personae non grata then I would be quite comfortable attending without my wife. I do accept that a lone male turning up with no prior knowledge of the people there could be seen as a prowling wolf type figure.