Posting on behalf of my mum. I know she is not BU but she wants an idea of where she stands so she knows how to go about dealing with this.
My dad has a friend (A) that he has known for most of his life and when A married his wife (B) and my parents got together they all became friends and have been for many years.
For the past 11 years we've had a very small gathering for Bonfire night. This includes my auntie, her two children and A+B and their 3 children, now only the two youngest as the oldest goes out with her friends instead, and our family of four. Also any neighbors that want to watch as we have the fireworks in the cul-de-sac.
For as long as I can remember my parents go to A+B's house for New Year's eve. It is usually just A+B their two youngest children, my parents and for the past 5 years only my sister because I go to friends' houses, occasionally they have a friend over who doesn't have a partner or kids but sometimes he goes to other people's houses.
Every year, for Bonfire night, my mum cooks burgers, sausages, hot dogs, pizzas and other "party foods" as A+B are notorious for bringing hungry kids to our house and then telling the kids to ask my mum for food, so my mum just presumes they will be hungry and now it is a sort of tradition to have some food and drinks after watching the fireworks. My mum has never asked for contribution but my auntie still brings down pop and cakes and little bits. Sometimes A+B will bring a small box of fireworks but they are not expected to.
For the past four years B has text my mum with a list of things that she will need to bring to their house to contribute to New Year's Eve. This has included a home made desert my mum makes (fair enough, she doesn't mind, it's cheap and every one loves it), cheese, pickled onions, pizzas, buns for burgers, pop, juice cordial and various other things. My mum is also told(!) to tell my dad to bring fireworks and sparklers.
Last year my mum was quite upset as the cheese that she brought to their house, was put in the fridge and a cheaper cheese was put out, same with the juice cordial. That was put in the cupboard and not offered to anyone.
Would it be unreasonable for my mum to send A+B a text of things they would need to bring knowing full well they won't bring it or turn up to their house at New Year empty handed knowing full well she'd get a snotty text a few days later ?
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AIBU to expect friend to bring food to bonfire night? Long, trying not to drip feed!
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Naysa · 23/10/2012 12:42
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