or at least iuntil they bloody well listen to what im saying.
ds born 4 months ago, he was in intensive care for the 1st week with breathing difficulties due to my waters breaking and me not being kept in or monitored, we both ended up with an infection, ds ended up needing oxygen. we politely asked inlaws not to smoke before coming right into the hospital, mil was fine, fil carried on smoking but popped in a polo mint before coming onto the ward .
this has now carried on for months, i take ds to visit now and again and ive asked them not to smoke in the same house (told them if this is a problem they are more than welcome to come round here instead for a bit). they used to smoke in the garden, now this has been moved to an upstairs spare bedroom where they keep all his toys for when he visits. last night he had hold of a toy that absolutely stunk of smoke so i took it off him and put in on the table, he cried for it again so i went and washed it and came back into to faces being pulled at me. i said it smelt really badly of smoke so i had to wash it, they said no more.
then fil nipped upstairs and came back and sat next to me, he grabbed at ds and as he did the smell of tobacco nearly made me sick, i asked have you just been smoking so he says yes why, i said cos if i can smell it that bad and its nearly made me wheeze imagine what its doing to a 4 month old baby. he then had a go at me saying he can smoke if he wants, i tried to compromise and asked could you at least wash your hands before touching him then (this was like asking him to hand over a kidney!!) dp thinks the same as me, hes asked them in the past not to smoke when we're there, they did for the 1st week then carried on.
i completely get its their house and they can do what they like but for the sake of their grandchild i thought theyd care a bit more about him stinking of smoke, mil (although we dont get on) has tried really hard and has one of those electronic cigs to wean herself off, fil smokes roll ups so always constantly stinks of tobacco. aibu to not take him round until fil stops smoking around him? theyre welcome here whenever they want, but as we are non smokers we ask people to go outside if they have to smoke. dp thinks im over reacting slightly but i think its cos he doesnt want to upset his parents. am i being too precious???
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Wheresmygalaxy · 19/10/2012 19:38
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