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To think that somebody should have have helped?

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 21:54

My DF (87) stumbled getting on a bus. The step was very high and not one of the modern ones. He has a walking stick,he also has 'big' shades as he has lost one eye and the other may be vunerable. He has fallen and he is hurt and nobody helped. The driver saw-didn't get out of seat.

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Bluestocking · 08/10/2012 21:56

Of course someone should have helped. I'm really sorry to hear about this. How is he now?

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AgentZigzag · 08/10/2012 21:56

It's possible they didn't know he'd done so much harm to himself, but they could have asked whether he was alright.

How is he now?

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YoloOrTwice · 08/10/2012 21:58

That is horrid! WTF!!! Is he ok now?

Really gobsmacked that nobody helped! Disgusted!!!!

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 22:00

Not one passenger asked.

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xkittyx · 08/10/2012 22:01

I'm so sorry to hear that. How disgraceful that no-one helped.

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WelshMaenad · 08/10/2012 22:02

People can be horrifyingly callous. I witnessed an elderly last fall outside the bank once, and sat on the pavement with her wrapped in my coat till the ambulance arrived.

I'm sorry nobody helped your dad. I would have, if I had been there.

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gordyslovesheep · 08/10/2012 22:02

Oh how horrible :( yes somebody should have helped ...how is he?

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SoleSource · 08/10/2012 22:02

:( selfish badtards

Big kiss for him X

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Dominodonkey · 08/10/2012 22:05

YANBU. Was it in a city? I fell once up the steps at Westminster station, not hurt but no-one checked I was ok and it made me feel really sad.

However, an elderly lady fell over in the high street near me (London suburbs) last year and about 20 of us rushed to help her. There was an amazing mix of ages, races and walks of life all wanting to do their bit.

So not everyone is uncaring and selfish.

Hope your df is ok now.

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 22:06

I'm just so upset because he spent his whole life helping/teaching.
He's got some nasty grazeing/ bruising.

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gordyslovesheep · 08/10/2012 22:07

poor poor man x

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Bluestocking · 08/10/2012 22:08

Hugs to you and him and best wishes for a swift and total recovery. I would definitely have jumped up and helped, and I'm training my DS to be alert to people in need too. That's all we can do - our own little bit, and what we can do to influence the younger generation.

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 22:11

Unfortunately he has very bad osteoporosis (rare in men but because of no sun in his youth,smog) Let's hope there is no more damage.

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McHappyPants2012 · 08/10/2012 22:12

Awwww bless I would of helped

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Coprolite · 08/10/2012 22:13

What is wrong with some people?

Is it that they genuinely don't care? Because I really can't understand how people get to be like that.

Poor man.

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whois · 08/10/2012 22:15

That's bad. Someome should have helped :-(

I don't think the bus divers are meant to get out tho?

For a mee positive spin on human nature I came off t bike a few weeks ago and had three men come sprinting over to see if I was ok. If you want make attention I can recommend a dramatic over-the-handle bars fall.

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 22:25

No, the drivers can't get out. He saw and looked worried.

But not one,not one.......

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Woozley · 08/10/2012 22:31

Other passengers probably couldn't see or were not watching. I know I wouldn't look up at every but stop to see who was getting on or if someone needed help.

Also I've asked elderly gents before if they need help or would like to sit, some get really offended. I'd just watch first and see if they were ok (that's if I was paying any attention at all) but in your DF's case he probably would have already fallen by then Sad

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GhostofMammaTJ · 08/10/2012 22:33

I would have helped!! Anyone there should have helped!!

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Jinsei · 08/10/2012 22:35

I'm so sorry OP.:( How is he now?

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GhostofMammaTJ · 08/10/2012 22:36

How is he now?

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Haemadoots · 08/10/2012 22:37

:( I would have helped, I remember walking through a shopping mall with my then bf now ex, elderly lady fell and he bloody walked over her I was Shock I helped her up

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Icelollycraving · 08/10/2012 22:38

So so sorry to hear that. Really hope he feels much better soon Thanks

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harbingerofdoom · 08/10/2012 22:41

Oh,well what's done is done,you just can't undo it in his mind that nobody cares for the old. He sounds very despondent.

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thebody · 08/10/2012 22:42

The more people who are around the less likely they are to help as assume someone else will.

Also bus passengers tend to be either very young so in own world or unsure of helping or much older and unable to offer help.

I would have but then was a nurse and so it's instinct, some people are worried about doing the wrong thing in an accident.

Hope your dad is ok, horrible thing to happen and can really knock confidence.

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