Sorry this is a bit long, have name changed.
So, a single mum friend of mine leaves her underage son home alone after school until around 6-7pm every night. He is a very responsible kid, but because we live close by and he and my son are very good friends, I often have him at ours after school, sometimes even feeding him dinner. At the weekends, she would then sometimes have my son over on the Saturday for a few hours. All was fine and well.
One evening we were both bemoaning the cost of childcare (her reason for not choosing to pay for it, and my reason why, with 3 children, I am a stay at home mum). She had a number of work events coming up in the near future, including a weekend away which she was in a dilemma over. I said that I could have her son for the late night events in return for her paying for pizza or something for the kids tea. I also said that I could have him over the weekend for a small contribution to cover costs of him taking part in whatever family activities we would do. She seemed fine with this and even gave me a list of upcoming dates.
Anyway, I had him one evening until about 10pm and she paid for the pizza, but since then he has not asked to come over after school AT ALL, and my son hasn't asked either. Bearing in mind, that they usually ask me EVERY DAY after school, I found this odd. Having not even seen him the last couple of weeks, I saw him today and asked why he doesn't come over anymore and he said that his mum said he couldn't because she would have to pay me!?!?!
I was totally caught off guard with that as I have never asked her for a penny when I would have her son after school. I did it because I couldn't stand the thought of him being home alone whilst we were so close by and could have him. Apart from paying for the pizza that one night and contributing something if I were to have him over a long weekend (which I didn't in the end because his dad came to stay (he is abroad). I actually feel quite hurt that, rather than say something to me, she has just forbidden her son from coming over. And am also a bit 'wtf' that she would rather have him alone than let him come to us, when I've never asked for anything for this.
So what I want to know is, AIBU to have asked for pizza for the late night event and a contribution if he stayed over the weekend?
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CotswoldsMum · 01/10/2012 22:37
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