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jango36 Sun 30-Sep-12 21:55:15

Hi just wanted to hear others views.. I have a 16yr old daughter, she s doing a levels at college (just left school). Me n her dad havent lived together since she was three.. She used to be real cllose to him but tht has drifted the past three or four years... he has a girlfriend- seems nice no probs except my daughter doesnt like new dads gfriends dad- and they visit regularly. anyway difficulty is that her dads gfriend informed her about a sat job in a cake shop.. daughter took it - but three weeks on not happy in job due to her feeling that too much was expected of her ( she s expected to make five cakes an hour) I think id struggle!! any way she told her dad she was not happy n thinking of quiting n he had a bit of go at her...i feel he was coming down on gfriends side as she goes to the cake shop owners cakes classes (she makes cakes as a hobby) now she has left the job (and feels happier n is looking for a sat job in a shop or supermarket) her dads gfriend been asking why she hASnt gone to work. the last thing i/we want is confrontation.. but think it is coming- what u all think??

WorraLiberty Sun 30-Sep-12 21:57:40

I think it's up to your DD where she works

But I also think she should have been encouraged to do the sensible thing and not leave the job until she'd found another one.

PaygeTurner Sun 30-Sep-12 21:57:52

YABU to abuse capital letters, txt spk, and paragraphs in this manner.

Clearly you could make your OP readable, you just can't be bothered.

(Haven't read it.)

ZZZenAgain Sun 30-Sep-12 22:02:59

If your dd has quit, the girlfriend will soon know about it if she attends courses there, so no harm in being honest with her and telling her it did not work out. IF the girlfriend recommended your dd for the job, it is a bit embarrassing for her but not the end of the world.

wigglesrock Sun 30-Sep-12 22:04:22

I had absolutely no bother reading your OP at all, but I'm not a dick.

Look she's 16, I had lots of jobs when I was 16 including one in a golfclub bar where I lasted 30 mins before I told some man to piss away off and another in a shoe shop where I was affronted when a customer had the audacity to wave their smelly feet at me blush.

I'm assuming she told the cake shop she was leaving and didn't just not turn in for work? It was kind of her fathers girlfriend to help her find a job but it hasn't worked out, just don't let it escalate into a row and she can do the explaining - she's 16.

WorraLiberty Sun 30-Sep-12 22:04:38

Oh that was helpful Payge

<< Slow clap >>

cheesesarnie Sun 30-Sep-12 22:05:46

maybe she was asking out of interest rather than to start a full on war?

cheesesarnie Sun 30-Sep-12 22:07:12

btw payge- no problems reading the op here.

PaygeTurner Sun 30-Sep-12 22:09:46

Sorry but my eyes glazed over.

It's really not that hard to hit 'enter' three or four times when posting.

cocolepew Sun 30-Sep-12 22:09:47

If you haven't read it how do you know its unreadable payge?

Your DD can do what she likes, op. If the gf takes the hump, tough.

fuckadoodlepoopoo Sun 30-Sep-12 22:13:59

No trouble reading it. Perhaps you need glasses payge.

I had a job where i only lasted five minutes as well. Its not that big a deal. If the girlfriend starts a row about it then she's a twat.

5Foot5 Sun 30-Sep-12 22:25:48

She went for three weeks so she gave it a reasonable try. It wasn't for her so she quit. Her decision and it sounds reasonable to me.

I am guessing the girlfriend is a bit narked because the shop owner is a friend so she feels some personal responsibility if she helped to get her the job and then your daughter quit. Tough!

If they ask again why she hasn't gone then you or she should calmly say she has quit because the job wasn't for her. I don't see why it should be a confrontation but if they make it in to one then you are definitely not BU to take your DDs side and very firmly so if you feel they are pressurising / bullying her about it. In fact YWBU not to do this.

Tiredmumno1 Sun 30-Sep-12 22:28:19

OP run from the paragraph police, or just ignore grin

I would say its entirely up to your dd, if she really was unhappy in the job, then made the decision to leave, then her dad and his girlfriend should respect that.

I wish her luck in finding another job smile

VBisme Sun 30-Sep-12 22:29:53

If your DD gave notice then she's well eithin her rights, I doubt Dads GF will be helping her to find another job, but it's not the end of the world.

Do you think you need to get involved?

harvestvestibule Sun 30-Sep-12 23:21:10

*paygeturners' how about you address the issue rather than making vapid comments about technicalities

squeakytoy Sun 30-Sep-12 23:54:20

Did she hand her notice in, or did she just not bother turning up?

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