I recently met a new friend through our local mum network who has a daughter my age. She seemed very nice and we would meet up for coffee, song sessions at the library, etc. Most of my mummy friends have gone back to work now so I was hoping to build our friendship.
After a few meet ups she invited the three of us (DP, DD and me) over to their place for what I assumed was a friendly visit. She called it 'getting to know them better.'
DP wasn't that interested but obliged for my sake. I had assumed it would just be her, her partner and their daughter there, but there were five other people I didn't know and in talking to them no one seemed to know each other very well. Suddenly my friend's husband announced that they were really excited to share something with us and they sat us down and put on a video about this travel club they belong to. It seemed really rehearsed and they kept asking us loaded questions like " you enjoy travelling and meeting people don't you? " we looked it up later and it's basically some 'multi-level marketing' scheme around holidays.
I was growing increasingly uncomfortable as I thought we were just going for a friendly visit. It also transpired that we were the only ones there not already part of this 'club'
When I interrupted the sales pitch to express my discomfort, this woman replied " well you said you wanted to get to know us better and this is what we do"
I felt bad for making DP sit through the whole spiel so I told them we wanted to leave, picked up DD and went.
The woman seemed really surprised at my reaction, like I was the one being socially inappropriate and they couldn't understand the problem. She still wants to be friends and has sinced called, messages me On fb and waved whilst out and about. But I feel betrayed and hurt about the whole thing like this was the only reason she wanted to be friends.
So, my question is, AIBU to not want to be her friend anymore and should I have just sat through the sales pitch smiling and nodding then politely declined? I can't stop thinking about it.
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AIBU?
To expect a new friendship to not turn into a sales pitch?
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Sprite21 · 28/09/2012 23:16
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