I live in a block of flats where our door and our neighbours' door open onto a shared staircase and there's about a metre of space between them. The doors aren't terribly soundproof since they're normal interior doors, not exterior ones. I then have a tiny vestibule and another door between that and my main room.
Neighbour plays some kind of computer game something like 8-10 hours of the day. At the moment he's been playing for an hour or so and it's so loud I can hear it clearly when I'm sitting as far away as I can be. It's not appallingly loud, it's just tedious having constant background noise.
WIBU to ask him to turn it down? I've done this previously when he decided to start sweeping up the mess his builders had made on the communal steps and left his door open so he could hear his TV while he worked, and he was fairly angry, but did do it. DH tends to reckon this is part of living in a flat, but it's getting me down.
AIBU?
to ask him to turn this down in his own home?
LRDtheFeministDragon · 28/09/2012 07:59
I've never heard of that DeathMetalMum.
When you say they have 8-8 of no noise do you mean it's in the tenancy agreement or that it's an unspoken rule?
Personally I would try asking, politely. He probably doesn't realise you can hear it. I would be very apologetic and blame it on the construction of the flats, not him!
If that doesn't work, then invest in some big speakers, and play your own music louder than his. 
We can't put a seal in katisha - rented flat. I think I can put some curtain up and it'd be warmer too.
Anyway: joy of joys, he has gone out! 
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I had to ask 3 times before the couple upstairs did something about their music.
They weren't playing it especially loudly and it was only in the day, but at they had their speakers on their wooden floor it amplified.
It took me ages to complain the first time, as I didn't want to be arsey. And I was really polite about it. I made it clear I wasn't actually asking them to turn it down, just to move their speakers off the floor. She agreed and then didn't do it. Eventually I got him and he did it straight away. Shame there isn't a more reasonable partner to deal with for you LRD.
She didn't have bad taste in music, but she did occasionally play modern, inferior (IMO) remixes of classic tunes. I would amuse myself then by putting the original on, much louder than her (This was after I'd asked her to move the speakers.) This was one in particular I remember - reggae classic (actually that one's a remix too, but I'm getting pedantic now!)
It started again when she had a baby. Couldn't hear the baby crying(or if I did it didn't bother me, I can't remember now). But she used to play the same, inane, twee, absolutely rubbish kids CD on loop to her baby. It was awful! I swore when I had a baby I'd play them music that was actually decent, and thankfully I've stuck to that!
But I digress! I think it it's annoying you, you should ask again, if you think you can do it without antagonising him (might be tough if he's easily antagonised?)
I'd wait until he was doing it at an unsociable hour again so you have the moral high ground, and then be super apologetic, you're so sorry to have to come and bother him again, it's a such a shame the walls are so bad, but the noise means you can't sleep. Be nice. Unless he's a total arsehole, how can he have a problem with that?
No, I mean, the LL has already said no. I don't quite understand why but it's fair enough.
auf - speakers ona wooden floor?! Ouch!
It's funny, my other neighbour regularly has loud parties with lots of Bob Marley playing, people out on the balcony making a racket. But they don't bother me because the noise is human noise and/or music, it's not a constant battery of mechanical 'rrraaagh/crash/bang' noises from a game. My issue, I know.
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