I am tall and very slim, have always been slim but in the last year I have lost about 10lbs due to taking up exercise. Becuase of the weight loss I got myself checked out by GP just to make sure everything ok, and she gave me a clean bill of health, said that I was probably just burning it all off due to busy life with 5 young kids and regular exercise.
However, my FIL, who is a nice man btw and we get on well, has mentioned my weight twice recently in front of other people and it has embarrassed me, (and the other people) even though I laughed it off at the time. On both occasions, we were out for dinner with PILs and some of my DH's siblings and partners. He blurted out across the table in front of everyone and said "Irish I just have to say this, you are too too thin, you need to put on some weight, would you not just put on some weight!"
I was mortified, and a bit upset and annoyed, but I didnt show it and instead made a joke to pass it off.
The second occasion we were meeting PIL, and my MIL's two sisters for a bit to eat in a local pub. He came in with them, we all sad hello, the he put his hands on my shoulders, and shook his head and said "You're too thin you really are, you've got to start eating'" to which I replied, half laughing half exasperrated " I do eat, a lot actually, " and he then said, "well then you need to stop doing something then" - which I take was to mean exercising.
Just to be clear, I DO NOT diet, eat 3 meals a day, and snacks in between, plus chocolate at night time. I deny myself nothing. I dont want to give up my daily walks along the beach as I really enjoy the fresh air and exercise and tit boosts my mood.
Also, much as I am fond of PIL, I am getting fed up with this. He himself is and has been overweight for the 17 years i have known him. He never exercises, and drives literally everywhere, would drive for eg to the end of his road (around 300yards) just to visit someone. Also both my PILs are a bit obsessed with other peoples weight. They comment on other peoples weight a lot, especially if people have put on a lot. They will criticise that. Yet they consider any women under a size 12 to be anorexic looking.
How should I handle this in a respectful, but firm way? Am thinking of telling them I have an overactive thyroid just to get PIL off my back, as then he might accept my figure, because nothing is going to convince him that i am not starving myself!
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AIBU to tell my FIL that i have an overactive thyroid because he keeps on about my weight?
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irishchic · 27/09/2012 12:04
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