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AIBU?

to think it is usually best to check facts before being outraged?

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Empusa · 24/09/2012 21:28

I mean, I get the appeal of a bit of outrage, it's always fun to work yourself up into an indignant fury, but...

Surely you just run the risk of looking a bit of a twat if you haven't actually got reality the facts on your side?

Twitter, much as I love it, does seem to fuel this kind of lunacy. Suddenly everyone is tweeting and sharing horror stories. Which is crazy enough, but usually people have got so much on their high horse that they daren't admit they were wrong, so it just runs and runs. And it could all be so easily avoided if people bothered to just check facts first.

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ErmahgerdPerngwens · 24/09/2012 21:35

I can see private messages I have received on my FB timeline, I can see private messages I've sent on friends' timelines. These are facts. Perhaps you need to check yours?

Empusa · 24/09/2012 21:39

Well that's one example. Thanks.

So have you actually seen those messages in your inbox?

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GoldShip · 24/09/2012 22:03

YABU.

the Facebook thing is a crock of shite

GoldShip · 24/09/2012 22:04

YANBU!! I mean haha

squeakytoy · 24/09/2012 22:05

I looked on my timeline from 2009 and on there was one side of an exchange of messages I had with my husbands ex wife. They were (luckily) amicable, but they were most certainly a private message conversation that we had. I logged in as my husband, and could go onto my own timeline and see them.

BupcakesAndCunting · 24/09/2012 22:06

OMG I think I might have been spreading rage

wannabedomesticgoddess · 24/09/2012 22:08

If your fb is deactivated will old messages still show up on others timelines?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 24/09/2012 22:08

If your fb is deactivated will old messages still show up on others timelines?

WorraLiberty · 24/09/2012 22:09

Squeaky do you mean inbox messages?

squeakytoy · 24/09/2012 22:11

yep, they were definately inbox messages. I remember the conversation at the time, and it was absolutely private. I havent been friends on FB with her for the last 3 years either. We defriended each other not long after those messages.

So it really isnt an urban myth about this.

Cathycomehome · 24/09/2012 22:12

What fb thing?

Empusa · 24/09/2012 22:12

goldship I was !

Squeaky Are they definitely PMs? Have you checked your inbox?

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Empusa · 24/09/2012 22:13

wannabe I don't believe so. DH deactivated a while back and all his posts vanished from my wall.

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WorraLiberty · 24/09/2012 22:13

Oh my goodness

squeakytoy · 24/09/2012 22:15

Like I say, they were definately PMs, and they were not in my inbox either.

WorraLiberty · 24/09/2012 22:15

Blimey I've just seen this on the BBC news site...although FB are denying it?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-19699205

squeakytoy · 24/09/2012 22:16

They would have been in my inbox at one time, but I know I deleted them.. or thought I had!

usualsuspect3 · 24/09/2012 22:16

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LtEveDallas · 24/09/2012 22:17

I have in-box messages now showing on timeline. Not that worried because they are all innocent, but they are definately there - including one from DHs cousin accusing me of being 'snobby' - and that was definately a private convo.

It's probably from when FB privacy wasn't taken as seriously - I know I didn't change my privacy settings until prob 2010 because I didn't really understand it. They are now showing because my FB was open to anyone back then.

OP was a bit smug and shitty though - was there really a need?

GoldPedanticPanda · 24/09/2012 22:18

I checked my fb tonight and seen pm's had been posted on my wall.

squeakytoy · 24/09/2012 22:19

There was other old stuff on there that was wall to wall convo. But because of who this was with, and what it was about, I know it was said in private.

Definately a glitch though, and also definately not there a few days ago, because I was looking back through that time to try and find something as it was just after my mum had died, and I had hoped to find somthing that I thought was there (it wasnt).

Empusa · 24/09/2012 22:20

"OP was a bit smug and shitty though - was there really a need?"

To be fair, I wasn't just talking about the FB thing. I've noticed it a lot, someone says something (usually in a tweet) and people take it as absolute proof without ever actually checking. It's all a bit unnecessary really.

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Empusa · 24/09/2012 22:21

usual It is strange isn't it? Like I said on the other thread, everyone on my FB only has wall posts showing, no PMs.

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monsterchild · 24/09/2012 22:21

But it's so fun to have a baseless rant!

Yama · 24/09/2012 22:22

Mine is showing pm's Empusa.

I'm not outraged, just a bit saddened as I read a pm sent to me as my brother was dying. Definitely private at the time.

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