To think i am right not to send my son back

[Mrbojangles1]

Right son went out yesturday with his cousin ( i dont speak of have anything to do with my sister )

I feel its important for the boys to have a bond i mean they go to the same school


Any way my lad was invited to the cimema which was fine left at 11:00 to see diary of a whimpy kid or so i thought they were late went to see dark night instead, i was told that (she ) was trying to figure a way to get them into a 15 to see ted

that was the first thing seconed thing was he got home at 5:30 bearing in mind he left at 11 and the cinema is only 30 minutes away he hadnt had anything to eat my lad said he did ask for some lunch and was told to wait to which food never came i mean thats about 6 hours and to be fair i did ask nephew if my lad needed money he was on loud speaker so i heard (her) say no


Then when my lad finally got dropped home at 5:30 he was really up set and said that on the way auntie had called me a cow amd was saying all tis stuff and that who the fuck was i not t talk to her and that i was closing my self off but i didnt matter as no one wanted to talk to me any how.
And the reason i didnt invite her to my wedding was because of my oh

My lad said he felt really akward and his cousin looked embrassed and kept mouthing sorry whilest in the back



I have now told my lad he is not to be going out with them agin and i dont want him round their house and i wont be taking nephew out as i dont want the drama but i am happy for him to go to the park with cousin or to the shops ect and hes more then welcome to knock here for him and visa virsa And he can also phone him

The whole thing was a mess to think she could take my lad out with out the hoopla what a fool i am

I since have had 3 nasty texts from her i refuse o feed the moster so i have not replied

I am so cross about the whole thing but more with my self

[Mrbojangles1]

When i took my nephew out a couple of weeks ago we went swimming gave him food them took them home with out slagging of his mother i might add

[squeakytoy]

How old is your son?

[Mrbojangles1]

He is 12

[Mrbojangles1]

I feel like such a fool oh was saying he knew this would all go pear shaped

Well thakns for the bloody heads up

[YouOldSlag]

Sounds like you're the bigger person here.

There are loads of rifts in our family but the golden rule is, never in front of the children. I can't bear my nephew's mother (Dbro's exW), but my nephew would never know that as i would never say anything in front of him.

I think you'd better subtly cut down contact as she is obviously being toxic. Also- not feeding your DS? Not a very good aunty is she!

[SoleSource]

Your OH didn't know unless he can see Into the future. He had a good feeling and was right to keep out of it.

Make sure you send DS with food and or money next time.

You seem the bigger person.

Feel sorry for the children.

[BadLad]

A very sad situation.

I wouldn't stop having your nephew around to your house, or taking him out, if I were you, as he sounds nice enough from what you have said. And mature enough to realise that his mother isn't coming across better by slagging you off to your son.

It isn't the nephew's fault, so I would take him out as before in future, and be as nice as usual. Make sure your son has something to eat before he goes in future - sounds like he might not want to go back anyway.

If they are around 12, presumably the boys won't want to go out with mothers for much longer.

You are certainly not being unreasonable in being pissed off - very poor behaviour from your aunt.