to be a tiny bit annoyed with this person ?

[sherocks]

Hi !

I have this mum from school, she is the mum from one of my dc's best friend. She is really nice and everything but...almost everytime she sees me, she says oh we must have you for dinner..I do the right noise etc...after about being told 10 times about the same, I start being a bit annoyed with her...I mean invite us, don't but just stop you are going to have us when everybody seems invited to yours apart from us (which I don't mind really !!)..In order to put a stop to this, I have invited to come to ours for dinner but she declined, she said oh no you must come to ours, we need to put a date in the diary....Okkkkkkkkkkk!

I won't be rude to her because at the end of the day she is nice but would you feel the same ?

[Callisto]

Bizarre isn't it. I always think that people like this just say it to salve their guilty consciences about never intending to invite you, even though they feel they should.

[Callisto]

That should be 'never intending to actually have you over for sups'

[CailinDana]

Yeah that sort of thing is really annoying. I would be tempted, the next time she mentions it, to pin her down to a date or to tell her you're not interested.

[sparkle12mar08]

YABU to be just a tiny bit annoyed - I'd be hugely annoyed!! She all style and no substabce. I dare you to take a pocket diary to school tomorrow and when you see her run over and take it out and say - "I've got my diary, when do you want us to come over?" And just watch her face!

[sherocks]

Yes exactly, she doesn't have to invite me, I don't understand her, we could easily having meaningless chit chat and leaving it at that but no it almost always end by we must have you.....

[sherocks]

sparkle and callin - I'm really tempted to do that just to put a stop to that..but then I know she will be mortified if I do that ! As I say I wanted to have her for dinner and I even suggested a date but she wouldn't have it..really weird..and I know for a fact that she often has other set of parents coming to her house..so maybe I should be offended instead of annoyed because it doesn't seem to be hard for her to set a date for the other parents but for us...it seems something she must do ...oh I don't know

[CailinDana]

Inviting people for dinner is just her "thing" and she wants to make out that she's super friendly by pretending you're part of the group that gets invited. It's silly and bit childish. There's a mum in toddler group who does a similar thing to me - she mentions going to the cinema, meeting up in the park, etc but when I try to set a time she flakes. I just nod now when she mentions these things - she's convincing herself she's being friendly without actually putting in any effort.

[Mrsjay]

Its the same as Oh we must catch up , when the person is running a mile in the other direction they are just saying the right things , Just because the kids are friends doesnt mean the parents need to socialise , but i think this mum thinks she has to say these things for the girls friendship IYSWIM , dont sweat it ignore it and just smile and nod and let it fizzle out ,

[sherocks]

Ok I will carry on smiling and nodding..oh yes callin, we must get together for a drink, I didn't see your children for ages, will call you soon !!!

[CailinDana]

[cuttingpicassostoenails]

We invited a new to the area couple to dinner. They came and we had a great evening. Every time we see them they say "Oh you must come to dinner" and we say "Yes that would be nice". That's as far as it goes.

I now ignore the fake invites and am polite but not over friendly.