I will keep this as brief as poss. Basically I have/had a friend who was a really good friend. We were actually house mates for a while too and regularly did things together. She got pregnant accidently after getting drunk with her boyfriend and had the baby in September. I was there for her, offered baby sitting, to make meals to freeze etc. I am regularly in contact with her and she is now doing really well and is really enjoying being a single mum. She is confident in being a mum and is doing baby groups and meeting other mums etc. I am pleased she is doing so well.
However, I never see her anymore. I had a really tough time at work and was unemployed for a short time after I had to give up work due to stress. I never heard from her during this time even though she knew what was going on. No text to see if I'm ok or anything. I am now fine and working in a job I enjoy but I am getting annoyed that all the contact with her seems to come from me. I can count on 1 hand the amount of times I've seen her since Sept and it's not for my lack of trying. I have again offered baby sitting, I have offered to come and keep her company while watching tv in the evenings etc but she always texts later to say she can't make it. Usually without a reason.
I completely understand that being a mum is hard but is it unreasonable to still expect a friend to be a friend. We only live half a mile apart so it's not a big deal to get together surely. I love kids and I'd be happy for her baby to be part of what we choose to do if we did eventually arrange a catch up!
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AIBU to tell this friend she is not being a friend at the moment or ditch her altogether?
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alphabite · 24/04/2012 16:43
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