to have actually told my MIL to fuck off?

[peanutbutter38]

have a long history.. luckily she lives in another country.
She's anti vax and ever since I had my eldest 12 long years ago, she's sent me tonnes of unwanted info on a regular basis, about the evils of vaccination. She's continued to do this over the years and it dropped off for a while (when I'd vaccinated the eldest two and she probably realised it was pointless going on about it)
So, I had our third child a few months ago and it's started up again. And eldest dd is due to have cervical cancer vaccine next year (if she has it, we/she haven't decided 100%). A few weeks ago, my eldest was chatting to her on Skype and she said (and I heard this, was in the other room but heard every word); Ooooh you really don't want to have the cervical cancer vaccine, there are children who've died because of that vaccine'. The MIL then burst into tears to demonstrate just how distressed she was at this. Which freaked dd out big time.
So for a while we had a very stressed out twelve year old worried to death about a vaccine she's not even due to have for another year or two.
Then yesterday she sent us a long email about some new fangled jab they've introduced in the States for a behavioural disorder and said in the email 'well, the mother of my granddaughters (could only be me,her other kids have sons) will probably go ahead and vaccinate for this because she always does as she's told by the medical profession. She probably doesn't want her kids to have minds of their own. (referring to the fact that the vaccine is supposed to help with behaviour problems, thus making them more compliant)
I was hopping mad because a) she sent the email to several people and refers to me in the 3rd person. b) how bloody dare she talk down to me in an offensive, patronising way.
So I checked with dh, asked him if it was OK if I told her to Fuck Off, he said Sure, go for it (before sending her an email telling her how disgusted he was with her), I sent it and she then sent one back saying I should 'get a sense of humour'. WTAF? This made me even more sure I was right to tell the stupid mare to fuck off and I've now blocked her, so she can't email me any more crap. But how rude is she? Am beginning to seriously consider the possibility that she's mentally ill or something.

[BonkeyMollocks]

Yanbu!

[lolajane2009]

strange strange woman imo, i would have done the same YANBU

[Megatron]

YANBU. She has behaved in an appalling manner and though I am not generally in favour of conflict, there are some occasions where you have absolutely no choice. Sometimes Fuck Off is THE only suitable response.

[Mrsjay]

god YANBu nobody wow what a Drama queen her not you , that quite frankly is loony behaviour , Oh both my dds have had the vaccine they did not die neither did any other girl in the school , I dont think id be letting her skype fo a while

[DPrince]

YANBU - I am impressed you ok'd with your dh and he told you to go for it. I like a good planned 'fuck off' better than a heat og the moment one. The fact your DH supported it shows what a pita she is.

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Did you copy in the other people she emailed too?

I would have.

YANBU. Glad your DH agrees! :)

[Katisha]

Def NBU. Good that dh weighed I as well.

[CaramelisedOnion]

YANBU AT ALL. Fuck her, fuck her stupid mumbo jumbo ideas, fuck her interfering in the (correct) choice you have made to vaccinate your children.

Fuck her triply, the silly cunt.

I´m very pro vaccination though - so if this had been about anything else I might have been all "oh its best to try and keep the peace" ish.

In this case - tell her to double fuck off from me also. She´s clearly a moron.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I'd have the cervical cancer jab now if I wasnt too old.

mad old bint.

YANBU.

Kids die every year from measles in europe because their parents didnt vaccinate them.

[MayaAngelCool]

I love the bit where you asked permission to tell her to fuck off!

She sounds like a nightmare. Jeez. Poor you.

[Northernlurker]

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to back off when she a) interferes with your parenting and b) upsets your daughter with lies and emotional manipulation.

[Mrsjay]

just out of curiosity why is she so against immunisation ? do you know

[cakewench]

YANBU. She sounds awful.

[Fluffycloudland77]

Some people do genuinely think vaccines have mind control elements.

Patients have told me this. I checked the medical history and no reported mental illness either. They just have alternative views.

[DublinMammy]

Well done for actually telling her to fuck off, the crazy, idiotic twat. Just direct her to this page so she can get a flavour of what other people think of her behaviour. Perhaps forward her the posts from Caramelised and Fluffy?

[JingleMum]

YABU

you shouldn't have asked DH's permission, you should have just told her to fuck off! she's bang out of order and should be apologising to the "mother of her grandaughters"

[exexe]

Yanbu though there have been plenty of case of damage done by vaccines but I think there is a predisposition or underlying health issue.

Its ok for her to perhaps try to inform you of all the cons of vaccines but she sounds far too emotional and a bit unbalanced in her views.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I was vaccinated against whooping cough at a time when it was being reported that it was giving babies brain damage. I'm fine.

[peanutbutter38]

you see, I don't even think its OK for her to inform me of the cons.
I'm an intelligent woman. She knows this.
So she should just fuck off with her unsolicited opinions.

[Midori1999]

I think I love your DH, sorry...

Good for you, it's definitely not on for her to upset your DD like that, along with everything else she has done.

[Showmethemhappyfeet]

What a bitch! Well done for taking the time to check with DP. I would have prob skipped that step. Luckily my MIL(to be) has v similar parenting views to me otherwise I would be expecting the same type of emails...

[CreepyWeeBrackets]

"Fuck her triply, the silly cunt"

[pumpkinsweetie]

Oh my lord what a deranged old bint, with all these mil threads this week im starting to realise my mil isnt near as bad as some!!

[Springforward]

Fluffy, my DM skipped that one and I got whooping cough as a preschooler, it was so horrible I can still remeber it.

Therefore DS has had all jabs offered.

Well done for telling her to fuck off.

Maybe give her a copy of Ben Goldacre's "Bad Science" for christmas? [Grin]

[nsjuly]

Well since you asked your DH's permission and got the go ahead, YANBU at all. She had it coming. I am very pro vacc and cannot understand people who believe the propaganda from the anti vacc camp. Is she able to present a logical argument to you and back it up with peer reviewed medical literature? Or does she just believe everything she reads in her local rags? How frustrating. Was your DH vaccinated as a child? I'm guessing not. Great he is in your camp though, nothing like presenting a united front to piss her off!