So in your view who WBU

[WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill]

Me and dh had a very rare chance to go out together this evening. He said lets go for a drink then something to eat. I said I wasn't really keen on going for drinks but he went on and on so we went for drinks. All this time I was starving and told him this, I have today come off nights and haven't eaten anything other than a yoghurt since 2am yesterday morning. I mention wanting to go for food DH said 'wait til we finish drinking' which to me sounds like a teenagers response.
Anyway a few drinks later in the pub he starts saying hello to someone who he thought was someone he knew but it wasn't. At first it was funny but he kept talking to random people who were laughing at him and I was cringing for him. I asked him to please stop it as he was looking like a laughing stock and hrs started ranting at me with his face screwed up bringing up things I'd done say twelve years ago when drunk and saying 'well you're a non when you are drunk remember when you...'
He then continued ranting at me in the street loudly lots of people were looking and he said he was being like that because I was winding him up and I should shut my gob and he wouldn't get like that. I should apparently be happy for him being a drunken twat and laughing stock as telling him he's being a fool is being controlling...

[AgentZigzag]

You both sound like teenagers, which isn't an altogether bad thing if you had a good time, but you didn't...

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

Hmmm... sounds like you both should have eaten something before you went out

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

OMG.

I'd have left him in the pub and gone home. Or, if he was at risk of getting lost/mugged/in a fight/ in an accident then bundled him home in a taxi and given him water and a bucket.Leave him to sleep it off on the kitchen floor.

Is he only like this when he's drinking? It sounds like he's holding a grudge and the drink is loosening his tongue.
Mind you, I don't drink, so I'm intolerant of drunks.

BTW whale why are you asking Who Was B.U.? Unless there's something you've missed, what have you done that's unreasonable?

[featherbag]

You sound drunk. He sounds drunk, and a tool. Sober up and discuss it in the morning.

[ComposHat]

Back in the good old days, the only place you could hear a drunken row between boozed up couples on a Saturday night was outside the pub at chucking out time.

Thanks to the internet you can now read the incoherent ins and outs in the comfort of your own home! All that is lacking is the smell of booze, chips and stale sick.

Don't know or care who was BU - any more I care who was BU in the four drunken tiffs I witnessed in the street tonight.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

Unless it's one of those weird reverse posts and it was you that was drunk and shouting...?

[WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill]

I'm asking because my husband blames his tool like behaviour on me asking him to act less of a nob

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

How much have you drunk OP? I ask as a seasoned (and pickled) drunken poster

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

If it's the ale talking then leave him alone until he's sober.
Then make as much noise banging cupboard doors and slamming down plates.
When he asks you "WTF is wrong with you?" you can give him both barrells when he's too fragile to escape.

And if he throws up all over himself tonight, let him sleep in it. (Obviously turn his head to the side so he doesn't choke on his own vomit)

Have I mentioned I don't like drunks?

[WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill]

I've had three g&t's

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

Where are you at the moment? Obviously posting on MN.

Where is your DH?

How sober are you after 3 G&T on an empty stomach?

[WhaleOilBeefHookedIWill]

Back home now after a flop of an evening

[LittlebearH]

Take comfort he will feelo rougher than you in the morning. He was being a drunken nob. No more no less IMO

[zeropinterest]

You say you're very hungry and overworked and let's go get some food, and he says, "Wait until we've finished drinking". ?? WTF?

You should have left him in the pub and gone out to get some food. Was this a one-off or is he always such an arse?

[akaemmafrost]

I am unable to see how the OP sounds like a teenager . Her DH does, not her, he sounds like a selfish twat actually.

[DizzyKipper]

In a situation like this really I think you should have just gotten up and left.

[squeakytoy]

Sounds like his plan was going for a few drinks, and a kebab on the way home.. you wanted to go out for dinner. It was doomed from the start.

Was he drunk and annoying people, or is he more sociable than you and is happy chatting with people he doesnt know?

[Tee2072]

Your first, best choice, and you were both being unreasonable, BTW, was to say, 'Bye, I'm off to get some food.' and leave.

You were both unreasonable because he was being a drunken lout and because you acted like a 15 year old rather than a grown up and didn't sort yourself out.

Don't blame him for being a drunken fool, that's his prerogative. Blame yourself for putting up with it for one single second.

[AgnesCampbellMacPhail]

He doesn't sound like someone I'd want to hang out with.

You hadn't eaten all day and he didn't want to get food? The simple answer was for him to drink whilst you eat. The fact that he wouldn't even acknowledge your hunger is quite sad.

[Callisto]

I would have been on the floor after 3 G&T's on an empty stomach, and I can hold my drink pretty well.

OP, I think your husband sounds like an immature idiot who just wanted to go on a bender and didn't really want you there to stop him getting pissed. However, why on earth did you take all of that abuse? It doesn't sound like either of you respect you (and I've always been told that if you don't love and respect yourself, nobody else will).