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AIBU?

To think the bereaved parents of the children in the recent coach crash should be able to visit the tunnel and place flowers without TV cameras up their noses?

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Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 13:35

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Calamityboo · 15/03/2012 13:41

YANBU at all, and may I add an extension to that, funerals being shown on the news?? WTF It is a deeply emotional personal time that should be allowed privacy, if the families want to be publicised, then set up an area, away from the place where the poor little souls lost their young lives.

CharminglyOdd · 15/03/2012 13:42

YANBU. I felt sick when I went on the BBC website last night and they'd printed word for word the children's blog, with a tiny caption saying 'These entries were captured by journalists before the blog was removed.' If it was removed they should, IMO, have respected that decision.

Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 13:42

Yes, all of it Calamity. There should be a law. Isn't it awful enough without the press?

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ChickensHaveNoLips · 15/03/2012 13:46

The blog photos on the news last night were in very bad taste, I thought. Extremely disrespectful to the families of the victims. I'm finding the whole thing very upsetting, and DS1 is due to travel with school shortly.

Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 13:48

DS1 is going away with the school in June Chickens. This one so soon after the one where the teacher died too.

My heart goes out to those parents.

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ripsishere · 15/03/2012 13:48

Of course YANBU. I am finding it all very upsetting.
I didn't realise that the BBC would stoop that low, in my mind it's only tabloids who do that sort of thing.
Me and DH call it Herald of free enterprise reporting. Asking fucking stupid questions then filming the emotional person in close up.

Abra1d · 15/03/2012 13:50

My husband turned off the news because he thought it was way too intrusive to see.

Those poor parents are heart-broken. Their worlds are destroyed. Give them some space. It makes me well up just thinking how they must be feeling.

Psammead · 15/03/2012 13:51

Yy rip, I hate the horrible questioning style.

Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 13:51

I cried when i saw them. I also don't want DS to see the footage of the coach particuarly. I know he is 12 but even so.

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chinam · 15/03/2012 13:55

YANBU, those poor people need to be left alone. If they choose to speak out at a later stage then so be it, but for now there should be no intrusions by rubberneckers.

Birdsgottafly · 15/03/2012 13:55

I thought that this sort of thing was going to end with the death of Princess diana, but the press doesn't seemed to have changed at all.

I know in the case of some deaths, the family wanted publicity, to help catch the killers/get information and of course that is different.

littleducks · 15/03/2012 13:57

I read the coverage in the metro and was appalled that the wife of the coach driver found out he was dead on the Internet.

A few pages later there was a story about the met police tweeting about finding a missing girl and her mum reading it before she had been told

Hulababy · 15/03/2012 13:57

I just don't need to see grieving families, especially so soon after an incident, and some not even knowing if their little ones were alive or dead :(

9y DD is going on a school trip to France in May for 3 nights. I know these things are very rare, but have to admit that I have avoided most of the TV reports as much as possible, and I have shielded DD from most of it too.

Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 13:58

Me too Birds. I would imagine photos of the children will appear in the papers soon- that seems to be the unfortunate norm.

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thebody · 15/03/2012 13:58

Hi everyone, I feel particularly well versed in this as my dd was injured in the Alvechurch school coach crash 4 weeks ago.

At 8 am on the Sunday morning we received a phone call that the girls coach had crashed from another parent, their son on the boys coach had texted them.

He said there was at least one dead and others badly injured.

We didn't know until 10 am if our dd was dead or seriously injured.

We headed for the school at lunch time to be besieged by cameras, reporters, police and security, it was pure hell.

The school were fantastic but the police warned us that the press were hacking into our older Dcs Facebook accounts to find details and pictures of our dd! She's 12. They had to close them down.

The press were offering pupils( oldest pupils in the school are only 13)cash to talk about and name the girls on the Coach, they were all still in France at this time.

Dd arrived back In the early hours to school, she had very bad glass
cuts to her face and reporters were running after the car to try and grab pictures of her, police dragged one of them back, sickening!!

My heart goes out to the parents of these children and yes of course the press should stay well away.

Sparklingbrook · 15/03/2012 14:01

I am so sorry to hear this thebody. How is your DD doing?

That 2 hours for you must have been hell. It is all so wrong.

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Calamityboo · 15/03/2012 14:03

the body, that is bloody awful, I cant believe the levels that these people will go to. Hope your DD is ok and is recovering from the shock and injuries.

FreudianSlipper · 15/03/2012 14:03

YANBU

i turn over, i do not need watch people suffer in this way to understand how devastating this news is. where is the empathy also when someone has been murdered and they print details of where the family live, cost of their house etc its an invasion of privacy (though often printed to show look what has happened to this nice family)

i also find it very uncomfortable to watch people desperate for food, in wars, suffering after natural disasters (the filming that took place in japan last year was terrible) often this will raise awareness and the circumstances may be different but the filming of people at their most vulnerable feels very wrong to me

PeppermintPasty · 15/03/2012 14:06

What a hideous experience, thebody, I hope she is doing ok, how terrible for you all.

Those reporters/photographers should have been arrested. All common decency and empathy-gone. Or didn't exist in the first place. It's revolting.

surroundedbyblondes · 15/03/2012 14:06

thebody that is absolutely sick. How is your DD now? How are you coping?

startail · 15/03/2012 14:07

Thebody, words fail me.

Nest wishes to you and your daughter.

startail · 15/03/2012 14:07

Best wishes

Abra1d · 15/03/2012 14:09

Thebody--what a terrible experience. Best wishes to you all.

thebody · 15/03/2012 14:11

Thanks, yes it was the worst moment of our lives as parents, not knowing was just torture.

She is ok ish though she has changed from a confident kick ass kinda girl into one who is scared of the dark, motorways, and only just now going on the school bus, we had a power cut last week and she was instantly petrified, also can't stand sound of tyre screetch,all I suppose to b expected.

She has a large scar on her forehead and lots on ber body but still lovely and still alive so feel very lucky.

3 girls still in hospital with multiple injuries though mending.

ChickensHaveNoLips · 15/03/2012 14:12

Bloody hell, thebody, what an awful experience.

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