to not want nappy changing at a table

[moogster1a]

Just got back from a playgroup. Loads of toys out etc. and at one end a long table with little chairs. parents / carers sit here whilst kids rage about; halfway through session lo's sit at the table and have toast, melon, teacakes etc. Then carers can sit back down to the serious business of drinking coffee whilst keeping an eye on kids.
One woman insists on changing nappies whilst sat at this table. She drapes lo across her knee, pulls off bottom half of clothes and changes.
AIBU to think this is a bit minging. Admittedly I've never seen her doing it with a pooey nappy, but I just don't think a urine soaked nappy should be put on the table while she gets the new one on . Also, she's a childminder and I'm not sure parents would be happy about seeing their lo in a head down backwards uncomfortable position whilst their bits are flashed at everyone sat there ( nt CM bashing, BTW; I'm one myself..)
There is a loo available with changing mat, which I pointed out to her a few weeks ago, and she just said thanks and has carried on.
AIBU to tell her to use the loo in a more forceful tone or is this acceptable?

[naturalbaby]

ew. when did she wash her hands?

[moogster1a]

She didn't. Then she was feeding one of the lo's his lunch.

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

YANBU I too find this sort of thing minging and she should def be washing her hands after changing a nappy!

[ZeldaUpNorth]

If she's got more than 1 charge maybe she doesnt want to leave the others? Agree its a bit minging though.

[bochead]

hhhhmmm - what's she like in her own home with the kids hygiene wise? That'd be my query as a parent as you do worry what happens behind closed doors. (I had total faith in my own CM with all aspects of the care provided, and it really is a good feeling.)

Putting a dirty nappy on a table you eat off just seems a bit icky, even if the table is wiped down with disinfectant afer.

[BsshBossh]

YANBU.

[Pootles2010]

Hm no I wouldn't do it, especially not without asking! And no, shouldn't imagine she should be having childminding children naked in public either. She sounds a bit lazy, tbh.

Having said that, I doubt I'd have enough of a problem to want to say anything to her, as wouldn't want to sour relationships, if that makes sense?

[CamperFan]

YANBU, gross!

[lazylula]

While I do not agree with her doing this at a table, can I just point out that changing a child on your lap is no more uncomfortable than lying them on a hard, cold changing table, so the whole 'head hanging down backwards ect is irrevelant to the argument. The fact that she is doing it near a table where food is served is more the issue. I wouldn't see anything wrong if she had moved away to a more discreet place to do it, even if she was still in the same room (issues of leaving other mindees unattended possibly).

[moogster1a]

She comes wiht her assistant, so there's no issue about leaving the others alone.

[TopazMortmain]

Bleurgh!

[valiumredhead]

It's not something I would do personally but i have seen happen plenty of times.

[valiumredhead]

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[Anonymumous]

Urrgghh - yuck!

I often changed my babies on my lap, but not in public if there was a toilet available. And I always washed my hands afterwards, or used a baby wipe in the absence of a sink. Does she not even use a wipe to clean her hands afterwards?

Can't you have a word with one of the people who runs the playgroup, and ask them to make a general announcement to the group as a whole that nappies should only be changed in the loo for reasons of hygiene? I can't imagine they're too chuffed about this either, frankly.

[northerngirl41]

YANBU about it being gross, but actually I'd go one step further and say you are being unreasonable for letting her change the child where other people are eating - it's revolting!

I'd do the same as you first time and point out the changing facilities and then if she continued I'd ask her to use them as it's not sanitary. How horrific that this woman is actually being paid to look after children... Do you know any of the parents? Or could you complain to council registration? (Not quite sure how that works, but presumably some hygiene standards have to be upheld?)

[halcyondays]

Yanbu. She should use the changing table provided, that's what it's for. Putting a used nappy on the table where people are eating is a bit grim. And I always hate seeing people change a nappy and not wash their hands afterwards.

[BleurghUna]

YANBU to think this is yucky.
YANB at all U to go to a toddler group where teacakes and toast are served!

[KWL51]

yes def yucky. I would point it out again, or causally ask if shes going to wash her hands!

[SlightlyJaded]

KWL agree but would love to know how you casually ask if she's going to wash her hands

[KWL51]

In a sarcastic tone of course :o

I have to admit i would ask right out, 'are you going to wash your hands ?' but the op maybe less forthright than I am.

and that i obviously cannot spell without my predictive text.

[naturalbaby]

I knew that would be the answer.
Maybe offer her some hand sanitiser "so you can help the other kids with their food without contaminating it with urine. I don't think the parent would be impressed."

Complain, get her banned . What do parents/carers have to do to be banned from toddler groups these days anyway?

[vess]

YANBU re nappy change, but 'bits flashed at everyone sat there?'

[valiumredhead]

I would just offer to hold her baby while she washed her hands. No need for sarcasm.

[fortifiedwithtea]

Gross. Tell her you don't eat in nappy changing rooms so go take her wet/smelly charges off to the loo where they belong and don't forget hand washing.