I don't know who's wrong. My dh thinks I criticise him all the time and never notice what he does for me/the family. I think I do the lion's share and feel taken for granted,. This is an argument nobody is going to win. Tonight was meant to be our special Christmas night before my family comes to stay tomorrow but it has been ruined - I gave dh binoculars and he went 'oh - we already have some' but the ones we have are broken, and then we had a stupid and pointless argument about whether or not they were broken. I feel so angry and sad that we have spoiled Christmas.
And I broke a special champagne glass that dh bought for me years ago, ourt of temper, and I'm sad about that as well.
I do love dh. And he's prob right that I don't notice a lot of what he does. And I do criticise a lot - he does half a job, or doesn't do something as well as I would do it. Should I stop?
We are having these silly arguments more and more often and it's so tiring. I'm so tired at the moment because I've been working really hard and with doing all the Xmas prep I'm exhausted. The kids are playing up and it's making me edgy and snappy. Argh. I know millions of people are worse off than we are but I can't help wanting to escape from my life all the time at the moment. I don't feel Christmassy at all.
Fuck.
AIBU?
in not feeling at Christmassy??
CocktailQueen · 22/12/2011 22:28
Me and DH don't argue that much as a rule, but you can bet your bottom dollar that when we do it's always before family are due round/we're due round at familys house 
Took us a while to cotton on, and there's nothing worse than trying to put it aside to be a good host/visitor (and not carry it on dragging in random rellies ).
Christmas can be so stressful for lots of reasons, you've admitted you may be a little uptight about it building up and your DH might be the same.
Do you think you could do or say anything to try and 'reconnect' with him? I'm not saying back down or anything (that would be a step too far ) but something that would remind you both of a time when you weren't so under pressure?
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