DS1 is nearly 4. He is lovely. I know I would say that but he is. We hang about with other kids and he's pretty well behaved in comparison - when the other boys are fighting and throwing stuff about, he's sat reading a book and telling them not to. I sometimes worry about him as he's more like a 50 year old in a toddler's body. He's also very sensitive and so I have to tread carefully when telling him off. I say that not as I am a soft-as-shite parent (I'm not, I can't stand badly behaved kids) but as he takes everything to heart - he thinks about stuff a lot. I am also not saying all this to brag - the way my DS is brings its own problems.
Anyway, since DS started school his behaviour has gone downhill. He's knackered, basically, and a bit stressed as he finds group situations tough.
He has started hitting me or his baby sister a lot, particularly when I say no to him. He asks me constantly for sweets/chocolate/new toys/a magazine - for hours at a time and sometimes straight after I've bought him something. He won't eat his tea. He won't have his bath. Etc.
Tbh, none of this seems terrible to me. But DH is really struggling with it. Blames me for giving in to DS (I don't but I do pick my battles). Because DH isn't very sociable he never hangs out with parents with kids DS's age and so he doesn't know what they're like at this age. So every time DS steps out of line he really shouts at him, puts him straight on the naughty step and so on. Last night he was shouting at DS to make him eat his tea, shoving food into his mouth until it was all eaten. It just felt wrong, a little like bullying, and sometimes I feel that it's too easy to fall into this 'do as I say NOW' style of parenting (which DH and I were both brought up with) than actually thinking it through and working out what might work better. Or you know treating DS like a person rather than as a little shite who has to be squashed into obedience.
DS is being difficult, yes. He won't listen and the usual sanctions aren't working. It's hard for me to deal with but I'm pretty sure it's a phase - he is a good kid. But am I wrong?
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Birdsnotbees · 28/10/2011 21:13
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