I am TOTALLY being unreasonable from every single angle.
But urgh. I am supposed to be taking things easy this pregnancy. Doctor's orders. Plus I have a bad back. So I need my very helpful dh to do stuff that I would normally do and it is SO FRUSTRATING and IRRITATING.
I want him to walk the dog, but I want him to do it NOW NOW NOW just bloody go and then she'll calm down and sleep.
"Don't wash out the coolboxes" he says, "I'll do that". So they live in the kitchen for a few days. Then I move them into the hall and get told I shouldn't be moving them. Then I trip over them in the hall for a few days. Then I move them (still dirty) into the store where they gnaw at my conscience for a few days. Then I get them out of the store and hose them down like I was going to in the first place. Arrgh.
And to be fair to dh he is not a lazy bugger - he is doing a good enough job of picking up the slack, but I DO EVERYTHING QUICKER AND BETTER.
Then I decide to hose down the front steps and slip and fall down the steps and everyone is horrified that I was doing it BUT IT NEEDED TO BE DONE IMMEDIATELY.
And breathe.
And I can have wine in four months.
AIBU?
Do this for me, but do it NOW, and do it my way.
allhailtheaubergine · 21/10/2011 06:50
Oh, I read the thread title and immediately thought "That's me!" 
I can identify. I too have a DH like that. Great, helpful, does anything I ask. But not quite to my timescale or exacting standards. It's taken me some time to come to the realisation that this is a failing of mine, not his, so well done on that front! But feck knows it's frustrating.
Try and chill out though. The emotional stress of lying in bed seething probably negates the benefits of physical rest!
Oh yes I idenitfy with you totally! Just read this out to my DH (who has suffered three pregnancies with me, also incapacitated during PG by being too SPDd and too fecking uncomfortable to do many things). Like you, DH wsan't a lazy bugger, but he was doing everything much more slowlyr and less efficiently than I would have. :o 
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And I was being unreasonable, as are you (and I genuinely mean that in the nicest possible way :)). Even worse, the other day I found a note I'd written to him about how fecking annoying and frustrating I found things. (Rather than say it to him, I thought it would be better to vent my frustration on a piece of paper). Needless to say I ripped it up and binned it before he could ever see how vile I was
And breathe. And then breathe again. In a few months' time, it'll have passed and all will be nice and lovely again :)
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oh the shame of errant rs and dancing letters
That's how frustrated I am on your behalf! :o
My DH is the same, incredibly helpful and considerate, and quite frankly, he's being wonderful, but everything is on his timescale because he is so busy.
And it drives me nuts. 
But then, I can't say too much at the moment because he's just let me keep the 6 week old kitten I found running aroundthe John Lewis Carpark yesterday morning and he's doing the litter trays for it!
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