Obviously the standard and "right" answer is that being materialistic is wrong. Material things shouldn't be important and we should all live on love and fresh air but really and truly is this realistic?
I often hear people say "money isn't everything, you know?" and I find myself subconsciously rolling my eyes as no, of course it's not - health and happiness is everything but surely if you're lucky enough to be healthy and have healthy dc then, in fact - yes - it's not everything but it's a lot.Â
I ask this in a genuine way, as I'm young and fully accept that I don't know it all,may be getting it all wrong and not doing it right. My priorities could be completely ridiculous and wrong. I don't want to wake up in a few years and scream at myself for being quite so silly and would love to hear the opinions of those older and wiser than I am.
This all has being prompted by my return to work in 4 weeks time (from maternity leave) after having dc3. I was accepting it as something that simply had to be done but suddenly it hit me and i had a mild panic attack last night at the thoughts of leaving her as she is so, so young.
Through my tears last night, dh suggested I look for a four day week which made me feel so relieved and happy. I then had a look at the figures today and what it would mean for us and have realised that I just can't do it. I found myself thinking "We're already struggling. I can't put the financial burden all on dh and I'm just going to have to suck it up and get on with it"
Truth be told, although the recession has hit us hard, when I compare myself to those who really are struggling we're not. Having a good, hard look at myself; I'm materialistic. Simple as that.Â
We're starting out in life really - it's supposed to be hard but we both work our bums off and have a plan that if we continue in this manner, in a few short years, our dc and us will have quite a comfortable lifestyle - should i cut back now, we wont achieve what we set out to do - i will be home more one day extra for but we will struggle for much, much longer.Â
But which really is better for them? To see us more and have less? I really don't know if, upon reflection we've really got this wrong. I'm worried now.Â
I read so much on here that people have cut back on almost all non necessities to spend more time with dc and I feel like I'm wrong but coming from a very loving but completely skint household, I know I would have preferred to see my mum less and not have life being such a struggle and a worry.
Just on a side note, we have excellent childcare arrangements in place. It's family based. Also, dh will collect them at 2.30 most days (me having dropped them at 9) and then I'll be home at 6. I don't work weekends and have 5 weeks holidays per year. Dh has 10. He works a hell of a lot at night but they're sleeping anyway.Â
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BarbieLovesKen · 19/10/2011 20:04
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